A bit later on, in college, the dudes knew very well that what we were doing (m2m sex) was 'wrong' from the societal vista.

To some, this may have been an expression of the rebellion, if you will.

For the others, this was yet another great example how rules, and prevailing views had to be challenged. How you, too, were going to tilt the game into your favor, away from those who had rigged it in the first place to serve their interests.

Evolutionary theory says that humanity has been endowed with higher intelligence for the purpose of partner selection. Landing a sexual partner, keeping your underground coterie of like-minded men going, AND making sure that you did not end up being caught in those days certainly did NOT amount to rocket science. But for an 18 y.o. this used to be a game of very high stakes that required some planning, thinking and lots of action in-between. Typically, the dudes who played with fire got burnt now and then. But ALL of them learnt how to play...

KD

Somehow society (aka our parents) all managed to get the message across that sex was "wrong".

Whether it was playing doctor with the girl across the street or comparing with my cousin to see whose dick was bigger we all knew that you never told.

The funny thing with other guys - it was perfectly fine and accepted for us to change and shower in front of each other - no problem at all with being naked in front of each other - it was only wrong if you were enjoying being naked in front of each other!