CRUISING for SEX - Bad Influence/best Bud/fuck Bud Wanted

Here’s the deal: I'm a bi WM in a very LTR w/ another guy who isn't supportive, and I'm miserable (long, dramatic story) I'm definitely not getting what I'm needing, emotionally and physically. For now, I'm stuck there for numerous reasons, but I do want out. In the meantime, I'm doing what I have to do to stay sane. Just being honest, upfront. I need to start having some fun and LIVING my life. I need some help though....

I'm looking for another normal, masculine guy who would want a close relationship with another man - but maybe not a full-on relationship. Just best buds with lots of benefits. When you’ve had enough of me, kick me out and send me home - LOL. I'm not interested in a one night stand or hookup, but someone who wants and values friendship. Someone to spend time with - movies, concerts, sporting events, outdoors, shopping (more Home Depot than Saks), an occasional weekend away exploring our beautiful state, or just hanging out and doing nothing. Someone with a great sense of humor who wants to laugh his ass off with me. Most importantly for me, I need someone I can relate with and talk to, about anything (I'm supportive and a good listener also). The sex is just icing on the cake. I'm a bottom, seeking a definite top, with aggressive tendencies in bed. I love long hours of kissing, hugging/holding (a romantic at heart), but getting dirty and "fucking" is equally as fun. I’m definitely open-minded and willing to give anything a try. I'm looking for someone who likes a good balance. I give great oral/deep throat, can take a good pounding, will rim. Overall, I love to please. Just need to find a guy who can let me be “me” and accept it.

I'm not too picky - I’m not the type who’s hung up on looks. If you’re the type who has to describe yourself as “GL,” “hot” or a “stud,” well...good for you, but honestly, you’re too damn conceited for my taste. I do prefer someone in decent shape - just to keep me on a healthy track and for keeping up with each other. I'd prefer someone close to my age (30’s/40’s). Turn-on's, but not required, are taller, butch/masc, goatees, hairy or smooth, confident. Big plusses are military/ex-military, tats, muscular (OK, so I do have one shallow weakness...so sue me), motorcycles, verbal in bed (!!!), adventurous. Single, male couples or married is ok, but I do need a place to get away and hang out. I can't host. Local is ideal, but if you're a business traveler who spends a lot of time in Phoenix, I'd love to keep you company when you're in town.

Me, I'm a professional, 39 (pass for younger), 5foot9 and *currently* 185 (not "fat," but been working out and losing weight/toning muscle). My goal is around 170lbs. I go to LA Fitness, and just bought a home gym. I’d love to find someone who really knows what he’s doing, fitness-wise, and help me with this. Br/gr, smooth, tats, softspoken, a little shy at first. Definitely HIV-/disease free, non-smoker, no drugs - the same is a must. I drink, but very little - I need someone to teach me to tolerate it and get smashed with me - LOL. I'm not into the gay scene/bars at all - (my interests are straight/conservative. I love reading, sports (baseball, hockey, football, NASCAR), all music (esp, country and rock), movies/DVD's, eating (!), just hanging out. I'm easily entertained. I live/work in central Phoenix, but have wheels/will travel - what's a few miles between friends? My weekends, especially afternoons are usually free, and some weeknights after work. Pretty flexible. If you’re serious, I’m willing to make the time if you are. If you think you can drag me out of my shell, then get in touch...PLEASE EMAIL

mystangjaz@yahoo.com