How do I make the leap
 

I am 51 and want to have sex with another guy. My fantasy is to have anounymous oral sex but not sure how to take that step. I am not into clubs, and bars and worried I might be seen by someone i know.

My fantisy is to give bj and maybe bottom. I really don't want to get but want to serve.

The best way I can think of is to find a glory hole spot. An adult bookstore is best by far. Just find a booth with a hole, sit back and keep feeding the machine. Watch through the hole until you see a guy with his cock out and stroking. I have found that if you express the slightest interest (look thru the hole, finger thru the hole, etc) most guys will slide their cock right on through. Once he does, have fun!

But be carefull......................... once you make the leap chances are you'll never go back

I will agree with that, I was a late starter and find m2m sex the best.

Find another guy who is into what you want.Have fun!

What about other places?
 

Besides bookstore any other places? Bookstores in my area are hard to find. What about parks. How can I let someone know I am interested or tell they are.

I thought of a tee shirt but .....

Oh BTW thanks for the feedback so far.

Go to the Sex Listings link on this site. Use the Metro drop-down box to select Ft. Lauderdale. There are all kinds of places you can go. Make a choice, go there, if you see someone interesting, make eye contact and smile. See what cums up from there.

It seems like the sex listings are old
 

I looked at the listing and just about all of them are old. Any other ideas or web sites that might be more active. The message board here is not bad and I am getting good advice.

craigslist.org is the most used id think to find cock or a guy to suck yours.

Want my honest opinion?

Just do it if you really want it.

No matter where you live, there are places to go, and as mentioned, the internet is a great point of reference, making it easier to meet guys in your area. You may have to drive a little to meet someone, but this is ultimately a lot safer than cruising a park for your first time out.

In fact, if you don't have a bookstore available, I'd recommend the net over all other possibilities. It would sure put a damper on things if you got busted in a strange place, not knowing the particular "rules" of the area.

Exception if you can just MEET someone there and do not engage in public sex. Still, you can be busted for SOLICITING sex -- so you must know how to enter into that conversation appropriately.

Find a guy online who is also a bit new to this -- it will ease tensions on both sides. Or look for a guy who wants to TEACH -- there's plenty of us out there. If you inadvertently hooked up with a "pushy" type of guy who gets you alone and then tries to make you do more than you want to do... this can be a big downer and ruin the experience.

My personal experience, unfortunately, is that at least 95% of the guys who say they are "new" and "want to try it" never follow through. They exchange emails and photos, collect pictures, jerk off and fantasize and ultimately stop responding to emails.

If you are NOT one of those guys -- terrific. Post an ad and see what comes up.

Above all, I'd recommend HONESTY with the guy to whom you are communicating. If you are nervous, tell him so. Ask if he's willing to take it slowly, should you need that. If you want to engage in conversation for a while online, be upfront: tell him that you need to exchange a few emails first before making up your mind. Some dudes hook up with very little information swapped between them; others do not. If you aren't ready for the fast-track, that's OK, as long as you say that from the start. You may find it EASIER to just jump right in. If that's the case, great. You'll probably get more takers.

You'll have much better luck if you are willing to supply a photo. Most dudes will ignore you instantly once you say you won't share an image. However, since you only want to service another man, you DO stand a better chance of finding a guy who is willing to let you suck his dick sight unseen, but probably he won't do more than that.

Added benefit of being somewhere private, safe and secure -- public places are really for "advanced" cruisers, to be honest. You have to take your time and know the scene and the routine of each location. Many similarities to cruising worldwide, sure... but subtle variations in etiquette can be tricky to learn -- each location varies.

IF I were to consider a newbie, he'd need to share a photo and be eager to LEARN. I'd want him submissive and INTO what he's doing. I'd expect him to play by my rules, but at the same time, I'd be willing to make concessions to increase his comfort level.

Good luck, and do remember: OPEN WIDE.

IsoSLH ~

You've already taken the 'first step' before making the leap into this culture of men having sex with other men. By communicating to us you have an interest, the 'next' step is communicating that interest to other men to make it happen for you. Sounds easy, right? Well, perhaps not so easy for the uninitiated or the first timer.

For some men, it is the fulfillment of a sexual fantasy that motivates them to make the leap into this culture of men having anonymous sex with other men. Sexual fantasies are vivid erotic images in our minds. These fantasies are the safest sex a person can have and still derive some sense of satisfaction or gratification. For some men, it is not enough just to have these fantasies in their minds. They reason that making their fantasies happen with another male is sound ... logically and practically. For 95 percent of males who are mentally and emotionally receptive to male sexual activity, it is logically sound and practical. For the first timer or uninitiated, the logical next step is making contact with another receptive male.

You've already indicated you are not into the club or bar scene because you're worried about being seen by somebody that you know. This is probably the number one stated reason why many first timers are not into the club or bar scene. It is reasoned that being seen in such clubs or bars would pose a risk of exposure and thereby undermining their anonimity. But, is this reasoning sound? If being in a club or bar is guilt by association by reason of a person's very presense in such establishments, then what does that mean for every person in such clubs and bars ... including those who might know you by some other association such as a co-worker, a neighbor, or even a family member?

Still, if going to a club or bar is something you're not comfortable with, it is probably less likely you would be more comfortable going to a more public place or venue such as a public park restroom, an interstate rest stop, a mall public restroom, or any such place which might facilitate cruising other men for anonymous sex. These public facilities do have their own risks and sexual activity at these venues is usually 'At Your Own Risk' or AYOR for reasons of personal safety and security. So, if these public facilities are out of the question, there is always the notorious Adult Book Store video arcade area which does offer some privacy and anonmity, but is still not without risks either.

So, what is left if none of the above is an option to making the "next" step? There are the Fitness Centers which seem to attract a number of men who are similarly interested in sexual activity of some sort with other males. Most of these facilities have sauna rooms which can facilitate the meeting of similarly like-minded men. Do keep in mind that while such fitness centers are chock full of males, not all men at these facilities are cruising for sex with other men. But, the ones who are interested will do a lot of eye contact and will express their interest with lots of nonverbal communication. But, if this doesn't appeal to you, then where else can you make contact with similarly minded males?

There's always the online internet contact which might serve your need for anonomity and a comfort level in establishing contact with someone ... anyone ... who is willing to help you make that 'next' step relatively safe ... and hopefully a most pleasurable experience. As with any advice you receive on this website, do keep in mind we have the practical experience of cruising other men for sex, and most of us would be remiss by not mentioning there are always RISKS associated with cruising other males for sex. Anonomous sex doesn't have to be risky, unsafe or dangerous provided you carefully weigh the associated risks and use your best judgment at all times.

There is nothing wrong with making your sexual fantasies come true so long as the 'next step' is not a risky, unsafe or dangerous misstep. With careful and thoughtful planning and an honest and realistic assessment of your risks, the next step can be a wonderful and most pleasurable experience.

Happy hunting, keep your wits about you, and have lots of fun.

Aloha....Let me throw my two cents in here.....I agree that gloryholes are the best place for a new guy to go and are worth it even if you have to drive a long ways and I will tell you why....Lots of men have fantasies of being with another man or to be specific sucking another mans cock.....BUT lots of times the reality of the act doesn`t match the fantasy because the other guy doesn`t have a cock that appeals to the fantasy you built up or it is unappealing for some other reason....The best thing about gloryholes is that it allows you the chance to check out the other guys equipment anonymously and if you don`t like what you see for any reason you can just pass on it or leave with no hurt feelings...If you are face to face it is a lot more awkward and embarrassing to back out........That being said....A lot of first timers or "straight" guys feel a lot more comfortable having their first male/male oral encounter with a T-Girl....This allows them the chance to have male/male sex but still feel they are straight since she looks like a woman.

I have to agree with some
 

now I just consider myself sexual. I went to a glory hole and was stroked off by a guy, a little wierd at first< but still felt great. fantasized about a woman I knew doing that. I met a crossdresser who sucked me, and that was great. During the act, I kept looking down, and I imagined it was a girl, best head ever. Then, back to the glory hole, and a guy wanted to blow me, but in my booth, so I let him. felt very awkward at first, but the way he worked it, I admit now, that men are best at pleasing men.
above, someone said you may never go back. Well, he does have a point. I fucked men, and it was great. Men_crossdressers-and transexual MTF KNOW how to please a cock. just like I could never eat pussy like a woman can. plus, men are just better sexually top be with. Most of the time, some exceptions to the rule apply, but most of the time, they say they want to fuck, and they fuck. No mind games. Just out with it. I enjoy it. I bottomed once, and my prostrate was hit. Yes, it is possible to cum, and cum hard if an experienced top knows how to fuck you. Again, a little unconfortable at first, but then, extrem,e pleasure. If you are curious, give it a shot. Believe me, it is written on here somewhere, that if you go to abs and you see someone you know, who are they going to tell? They are there for the same thing you are. Hell, I got sucked off by a guy I worked with, did not see his face, and he just went for my cock. Blow a huge load. I was in a hurry, I zippered up, and we walked out at the same time. Never said a word until we got outside, then a quick meet me at the gas station. We kept it our secret, but played a lot. So, yes becareful, be discreet> if going to a glory hole do not be pushy. no one likes that. Plus be discreet and you may be lucky enough to get a mind blowing suck job from some married guy who is curious. Or, you may suck a beautiful long thick cock of a young hot married guy. Play, have fun, and just use common sense.

Studski can we say self-loathing? Hello? What on earth are you even here at this website for? A website called 'cruisingforsex' is precisely for that. If you find it so wrong, please take your attitude somewhere else. A good deal of the world is full of self-hatred of our body and our sexuality so you should have no trouble finding other like-minded individuals.

@Keith: I am here to share information. I see sex addiction ruin many nice people as well as nice places for normal people to enjoy. If you don't like it, tough.