I am looking to improve my understanding of an issue raised here, namely, that the queer left regards ordinary gays with disdain. Several posters have defended the right of "ordinary" gays to live quiet, unassuming, normal lives. We are told that the queer left despises ordinary gays and advocates a radical and confrontational lifestyle.

Can somebody direct my research here? I've read some queer theory and I know about the calls for confrontation. But I don't believe that radical queers despise ordinary people. (If they do, they shouldn't!)

Can anyone supply me the name of a writer who illuminates this topic? I am looking for information --it doesn't have to be the final word. (Resolved: that gays already fit in, but radical leftists are stirring things up for the sake of their own individual careers)