Most of the sexual health strategies are based on protection (condoms) and/or monogamy. This in itself goes against the current needs of many men: a need to experience cum (Semen Fetish) and engage in sex with anonymous multiple partners. That's the ideal, the fantasy for men of any self-identity. This relates to the concept of private sexuality that I've discussed earlier.

Any successful prevention system has to take these needs into account. Are these in fact men's needs? Well, just look around at pornography and men's fantasies. Definitely multiple partners, as you can see in both all-male porn films and "straight" porn films. A "hot" piece of porn will probably consist of group action (multiple partners) and will include many shots of hard-ons and cum-shots. For porn to sell, it has to contain what the porn industry calls the "money shot:" a cum-shot.

This is the essence of pornography and male fantasy. Many men who fear the shame of homoeroticism and homosexuality (what is the difference between homoeroticism and homosexuality? Read <A HREF="http://communities.msn.com/AboutMenandtheirDicksAmIgay/thetheory.msnw?action=get_message&ID_Message=11&La stModified=4675290897186300989">Erotic vs. Sexual
</A>. These men channel all their erotic and sexual energy towards women. Or at least they try, but of course with a lot of disappointment. In my opinion, part of the hatred towards women (misogyny) is rooted in this dynamic.

But many other men feel the need to connect with the male body, the body they live in and that gives them a sense of existence. It's not unreasonable for men to feel desire for the male body! Can these men live their desires and fantasies in a way that will guarantee safety with respect to all STDs?

Someone in another discussion board wrote: "I can't think of any other rational, sane,safe way to do it."

I say that there is. I will write my proposal in the near future.

TheSexWizard



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