Hey VSG:-)
A good start may be to keep in mind that 'Sex discriminates against the Shy and the Ugly', according to Murphy. Now, you call yourself here a Very Shy Guy. Try to see, if you can leave the group which is usually getting little or no action and join the 'upper echelons' who tend to get all the fun.
A good start might be to fill out your profile here and find a few good platforms (one of them is CFS) and place your profiles and ads on the Web.
Another idea would be to learn about the rules of cruising for men. If you go back to the discussions here, you'll find loads of relevant advice. No one here was born with all that knowledge. Much was learned on the go and much was learned by listening to the experience of other guys, too. (You do not need to make all the basic mistakes, do you?)
Everything that works starts with a plan. So, decide, what is it that you really want? A quick, largely anonymous encounter in a bath house, ABS, etc., or a more of a dating stuff? Whom do you find attractive and interesting? Where do such guys tend to gather. Are you into the bears, leather bunch, preppies, college crowds? What would you identify as your scene?
Once you fill in all those blanks, shoot back and I am sure, plenty of guys here will give you good hints how to get where you want to be.
KD
