Presumably you have read the "Booth Hogs" thread. There's tons of stories in there from lots of guys about annoying situations at the local ABS.
A few comments about your post, if you don't mind:
1) I have NEVER wanted to go into an ABS and JUST look at movies in private for the express purpose of jerking off. I can watch porn and jerk off at home anytime I want. It's a hell of a lot cheaper, too. I get no thrill from having to plunk tokens into a coin slot just to keep a film running -- and I often find that most of the flicks in the ABS aren't to my taste anyway!
2) I HAVE run into men who DO enjoy doing what you mentioned, though. In fact, I happened to take notice of that this last weekend. A dude entered the ABS back room arcade, walked immediately into a booth, dumped all his tokens. About eight minutes later, he left the booth and walked out the door. BUT...
3) You need to go to a TRULY PRIVATE booth if you want to send the message that you do not wish to be disturbed! Dude, when you use a booth with a gloryhole or a Buddy Window, you are sending the message that you want something MORE.
4) Regardless, knocking on the door AFTER you have said "NO" is rude behavior. MY personal solution would be to exit the booth, say "NO" face to face, then enter a DIFFERENT booth. Alternately, just continue to ignore the asswipe who won't leave you alone in hopes that he finally goes away. Admittedly, this is distracting if you are trying to blow a load, so maybe it's not the best suggestion.
5) You DO have a "right" to use any booth you want. Additionally, if you like being watched, a gloryhole or Buddy Window fills this purpose quite nicely. But you HAVE TO understand and expect that many guys will want MORE than to JUST watch you. So you need to communicate your desire to give a show and NOT have actual contact. Otherwise, if for some reason you cannot get this message through to the other guys, you need to be ready to deal with their advances.
Usually I can tell if a dude is ONLY going to show off and ONLY wants to see me do the same. There is no indication from either of us to meet face to face. We just watch and enjoy THAT. VERY rarely will I ever cum in such a situation, but I can think of two hot encounters I had that involved JUST looking. MOST times when a guy and myself are showing off to each other, it results in a get-together. Sometimes we can jerk off through a Buddy Window for a long time and enjoy getting worked up -- but ultimately we get so worked up that we DO get together.
6) I've had guys knock on the door when they don't even know WHO is in the booth. I've entered booths in complete privacy -- there is NO WAY anyone can know WHO is in there. But guys still knock anyway. I do NOT get this for the life of me. They must be REALLY desperate, willing to accept ANY sex with ANY guy who might be on the other side of the door. This leads me to believe that the dude who is knocking is PROBABLY extremely undesirable. So naturally, I do NOT open the door unless I know who it is.
7) MOST ABSs do NOT have gloryholes or Buddy Windows in EVERY booth. At least I have never seen this myself, nor have I ever HEARD anyone mention it. If YOUR ABS has gloryholes or Buddy Windows in EVERY booth, there is nothing you can do to seek out a more private area. If it DOES have private booths, USE THEM! If you WANT to be watched but do not want to do anything else, then you simply need to deal with the advances of other men. NOT shoving your dick through the hole will eventually send them the message that they are only going to get a show.
8) With all due respect, however... it is a LITTLE annoying to have a dude who isn't into ANYTHING occupying a highly-prized booth with a gloryhole for a very long time. MOST of us are OK with this, though: first come, first served. Yet I have been bugged to some degree by guys who camp out in booths and NEVER leave. I've seen LOTS of OTHER dudes get pissed at this, too. Yet... if you find an empty booth and go inside -- it's effectively YOUR territory to do what you desire. I'm only telling you so you know that you MIGHT get some dudes ticked off. This is THEIR problem, of course. You just have to hope they don't try to make it YOUR problem by initiating some sort of confrontation. This would be pretty rare, though: most guys just shut up and deal with the scene.
9) Even in booths with gloryholes and Buddy Windows, and even in a situation where a guy might want to do something other than give a show, there will be instances wherein the OTHER party will be undesirable for sex. So it's wise to learn the various methods of indicating disinterest. NOT shoving your dick through the hole or turning the Buddy Window OFF is probably the most obvious and easy to understand way to go about this! You can also nod your head negatively or do exactly what you did: "just say no." Blocking the hole is a good idea, too -- it's just kind of defeatist to the purpose of the hole! May as well just choose a booth WITHOUT a hole if you are going to cover it up, right?
Hope that helps a bit. But the bottom line is that going to an ABS will sooner or later involve having to deal with some very untoward behavior. We just have to live with that, mostly.
But it's fun to bitch about it anyway, right?
I know I certainly like to complain about it! Yet I STILL find the scene compelling -- and no amount of "bad" behavior is going to keep me from having a good time overall. I might have some periods where I'm frustrated and hoping for a smoother scene, but... that's life.
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