This desert isn't as arid as you may think. True, there are no gay bars, but you have to re-adjust your thinking. Lots of gays and lesbians call Loudoun County home.
Look up
www.dullestriangles.com. They're a very large LGBT social group meeting every thursday in Reston.
Try some online sites, such as
www.men4sexnow.com, www.m4m-world.com, and
www.manhunt.net - I've had success with all 3 sites. There's lot's of cock n' ass in Loudoun....you just have to know where to look.
Go cruising at Leesburg Outlet Mall. Lot's of family enjoy shopping. Don't you? Just don't make the mistake of public sex, ok?
Vince.