Believe me I've met high quality guys in those places in Bangkok (especially in restrooms, but more recently in saunas)! That's another of my life observations: gays wrongly think that "scummy" places are beneath them. I've met some of the best people in scummy places. It's counter-intuitive. The quality guys probably are too busy to hang out in typical gay waste-of-time places (and don't like the games in those places) and find it much better to meet in more efficient places. I think someone posted on a thread on this site that they met their long-time boyfriend on Silom skytrain platform. I do know what I'm doing and what I'm talking about. To me, low quality is someone who in narcissic and only thinks about themselves, and they think they exist so that you can support them--and they have nothing interesting to talk about. One high-quality friend I met in a restroom has a very interesting life, has taken me to see his mother three times, tells me about things that happen in his life, he works hard, is independent, has interesting friends who have older farang boyfriends, etc. It's just fascinating. He took me to one of those friends' new-condo parties and it was just so enjoyable and interesting.

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