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Originally Posted by jonn3
VERY true.
I know, especially when younger, there were some guys that were not openly gay but were very effeminate - and all of us avoided them due to that "guilt by association" - we figured if we hung out with them everyone would assume we were gay as well. The sad thing is not all of them were gay - but still just because of the way they acted or what they enjoyed they got stereotyped.
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To make the matters worse in this context, hanging out, or even being 'friends' with someone who is being perceived as gay or is openly gay, may scratch a dude's perfect str8 image with no benefit to him whatsoever.
You come across guys who, while not too comfortable with their escapades into the word of m2m sex, understand that there may be a societal price of some sort of ostracism if their affairs become known. Yet, they take this risk, because there is a reward for them there: they are getting their rocks off. Now, just hanging out with someone, and not getting much in return for being seen as 'not totally str8' is a less desirable option.
Fortunately, things have changed a lot recently. A number of str8 guys have gay friends, since the stigma attached to being gay is largely gone. But for the less liberal minded, small-town folks, the risk is unwelcome even these days.
KD