[Grumpybear]

You do make a good point about fear of undercover cops. However, if they have seen you there a couple of times, they should feel at ease.

Some ABS are CD friendly, some aren't. If you have a speaking relationship with the clerk and the store is cruiser friendly, joke with him that you hope the boys back there find you attractive. If he responds positively, tell him politely to be sure to steer the good ones toward you.

Personally, the best CDs can be their own worst enemy. If there is a question about whether you are a feminine male or a masculine female, there may be some insecurity among the guys as to what you are looking for. (I realize CD does not necessarily equate to feminine). Just keep trying.