I am going to have my first sex party soon and I was wondering if anyone out there who has done this before could tell me what I will need and or give me some tips and tricks. I am having a real cross section here, tops, bottoms, cds, tvs, bears, leathermen, pigs, twinks, preps, and whomever else you can imagine there. Thanks for any comments.

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It isn't the planning or the execution of the sex party you should sweat. It's handwriting all those damn "thank you" notes afterward that'll get to you. There's only so many times you can use the adjectives "mind-blowing", "rock-hard", "cum-soaked", "ass-stretching", not to mention others, before you feel you are just repeating yourself. And really, don't your guests deserve unique and cherishable thank-you's, not something that could have just as easily have been xeroxed?

Yeah, I know -no help whatsoever. But when someone asks about hosting a sex party, Judith Martin pops into my head. Some day, I'll have to write a sex-etiquette manual. Problem is, I don't think I could treat the subject matter with the seriousness it deserves.

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Have your read the feature article on the CFS home page? It's entitled "Orgy - Planning and Hosting Your Own
Here's the link to click on to go there fast : http://www.cruisingforsex.com/features/orgy.html

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At first I thought maybe it was just me, but then I took a second look at the CFS orgy primer posted above, and it seems that having such a WIDE variety of participants might not work out so well.

Then again, I've never hosted an orgy, and can't say I've ever attended one, at least not of a private sort. Bathhouses and other gay venues have been the closest I've come to observing what goes on.

I'd like to think that we live in a sexually free and open gay society where twinks and bears and cross-dressers and pigs and preps could all gather together and blow sperm for several hours. Sadly, I don't think this is the case. Some twinks would be repulsed by the bears. Some preps would be outraged at the pigs. Some daddies would be into certain bois who would only be into OTHER bois. The leathermen and the cross-dressers would not be able to strike up a good conversation about wardrobe during various lulls in the activities. The Republicans would want to fuck EVERYONE in the ass and the Democrats would be sure to complain that there's not enough organization.

It's possible that, given enough square footage to allow for movement to separate areas, various groups might be able to head off and do their own thing. But I rather doubt it...

Look, let's be honest here: we're all fairly particular, to a degree (some more than others) about what turns us on and what does not. This is clearly evidenced by the very fact that you can compile a list of so many different types of gay men that are out there.

No offense, but if I were at an orgy (figure the odds of that), and several cross-dressers walked in, followed by a line of twinks and a smattering of preps, I would find myself massively turned off. Likewise, a whole lot of twinks and preps would probably be "grossed out" by my hairy chest. Know what I mean?

I think you should consider refining your guest list a bit. Start out smaller, at least the first time around. Or, if you are completely sure that you want such an eclectic mix, put out some feelers online and ask around first before making definite plans. There ARE various groups who can intermingle nicely, but naturally it is only fair to "warn" everyone that there will be a wide variety of men present. I'd go limp even if the hottest cub I ever saw was sucking the hell out of me if I were to glance over and see a cross-dresser pull his cock out of a pair of lace panties, know what I mean?

If you want menu suggestions for snacks and a few decorating tips, I can probably come up with a few things at a later date. I mean, who can turn down a nice cheese platter? Meanwhile, have fun and play safe.

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