I wish I could get them to understand - I am just as (if not more) on the DL than they are -

If I see them on the street I am not going to say anything - I won't embarrass them in front of their wife or children or boss -

I probably won't even acknowledge them other than a brief nod of the head.

Their marriage and secret is safe with me - I am not looking to date - just find a regular buddy to have fun with!

I had a guy who I was hooking up with at a cruising spot following me in a Target. He was with his wife/girlfriend, and I was with my wife. If he had walked up and said hello, it would have burned me for sure because my wife would ask me how I knew him. If you are in public and you see someone, do not go up to them and talk to them unless you know the coast is clear!!! Better to meet up later and talk about the encounter. Set ground rules, etc. Mine are simple: Do not approach me if you see me anywhere else but where we usually meet up!

I had this happen not long ago - thankfully we both kept our cool.

I looked at him - he looked at me - we realized where we knew each other from -

Just sort of did a "half nod" of the head acknowledging each other and walked on.

That is the way discreet guys do it. When you are at your play spot you can approach, but anywhere else, you gotta play like you are a CIA operative trying not to blow your cover.

Exactly. I am not married so I don't have that issue - but I am also not "out" about liking men -

As far as I am concerned that is no ones business - so just play it cool until we are as buttpiratesc says "at your play spot" and there you play it as hot as can be!

Well said!