anal sex
 

cant seem to get anything but a finger in my ass ,have tried small dildoes i cant seem to relax enough would to hit my prostate

It is much like a band-aid. If you think it will hurt, and work at it slowly, it will hurt and just not work.

... But if you quickly (but carefully) stick whatever you are using into your hole, it should "pop" in and then from there you are good. I know - it feels like it will hurt, but the quicker you do it, the better it will feel. And you might make a sudden groan, but that will just make you even more turned on. Start with smaller things, work your way up to dildos, and hopefully you'll be ready for some hot hung cock!

Gotta wanna
 

I think you gotta want it. If you really want to have a guy push his schlong into you, your ass will open up to receive it.

A little mental-amputation might help too. Poppers have often been touted on this board as a way to receive a cock, often larger ones.

Other social lubricants can help too, but if you're looking to play safe, be careful that you don't lose your head so much that you compromise your values.

Be sure to use plenty of lube, whether it's a finger or a cock. The ass does not generate its own lubricant, so be generous.

Finally, you made need to relax your muscles. Bear down as if you were on the commode when the cock/finger/butt plug/dildo begins the assault. By opening your ass you will be meeting your top half way instead of letting him do all the work.

There is also the chance that the rectum is not shaped quite the same as in most people. A pal of mine was unable to bottom for much the same reason. Years later, in a routine physical exam, the doctor noted that his rectum had the shape of the head of a golf iron--the first inch or two shot off in a 45 degree angle once inside the anus before it ascended upward. Might be worth having a medical checkup.

Ouch!
 

Quick is NOT the answer! You could be injured that way. Here are 2 things you should try for success.

1) First of all and most important for the beginner – LOTS of lube.

2) Point the object of your desire (dick or dildo, doesn’t matter) into your anus and apply constant pressure just SHORT of pain. Your sphincter will slowly relax and you can SLOWLY EASE it in. If it starts to hurt, stop before you feel real pain, get accustomed to the size and then proceed. The tissue there can and will streach alot but it does so slowly.

This has always worked for me. I hope it will for you, too. Whatever you do; have fun but play safe.

Injuries happen when your partner isn't aligned the right way, or if you aren't familiar with where to put the cock (which direction it should move towards inside). When I said "quick", I meant once you are familiar with the opening and which direction to place objects. ;)

relax
 

just relax-if you are horny enough,it'll be fine.
For those monsters I am not prepared for,cherry flavored anal eze and a big hit of poppers :-)

Position
 

Im 36 and only bottomed twice with same guy. At first just doggy style finger then he slowly put in. Other time missionary and went in and owwwwwww. Got up and literally fainted. Thought for sure he had ripped me a new one. Went to bathroom thankfully no blood. He feaked and left-nice guy huh. I guess he hit my prostate. The next few days I masturbated it was really good. I guess I had never had any prostate action before.