I stumbled across a few articles that describe usage of the Reality Female condom for anal sex, and I'm intrigued... Anyone have an experience with these? Are they popular amongst cruisers or gay men in general? Known of at all?

A couple of the good articles:

http://www.sexuality.org/l/safersex/realas.html

http://www.aidsmap.com/en/docs/A85BA...14A60BEF79.asp

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ANY sort of protection is better than none at all, so promoting the use of female condoms to men who bareback is something I can get behind (pun intended).

However... it sure seems like a whole lot of bother as compared to traditional condoms.

I mean... when there's a ten-step instruction pamphlet included to teach proper use... seems a little preposterous.

I guess the benefit is that probably these female condoms provide a slightly more natural feeling. Male condoms tend to desensitize the penis and can be bothersome if too tight (larger condoms tend to fix this problem, though we all know that a condom NEVER feels as good as the real thing, unfortunately).

With so many "perfect" conditions necessary to be met when using a female condom in order for it to work properly, I'd be hesitant about trusting my life to it -- if I were an active bottom, at any rate. Seems like the discussion in the included links gives a whole lot of circumstances wherein the female condom can fall out, go inside, bunch up or just generally not work as well as it should.

Also, I'm a little concerned that even though a study was mentioned touting the efficacy of female condoms and the willingness of gay men to use them, it's a bit too early to know for sure and from one study if these will provide as solid protection as regular condoms over a long period of time. I'd sure hate to see a lot of dudes get infected five years down the road from a failed female condom...

But again... SOMETHING is better than nothing. Personally, though: I think the tried and true male condom is the way to go.

This smacks of heterosexual females having to insert diaphragms prior to intercourse -- bothersome, awkward and often not effective if improperly positioned. Sounds like having your bottom du jour fiddle around inserting this thing would take a whole lot of luster out of the evening. A male condom rolls on in a few seconds.

Suck as they might, I would still recommend male condoms for anal sex.

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I've used them when I top. Really simple to use. I take the inside ring out. I lube my cock and put the condom over my cock. I lube the outside of the condom as it sits over my cock. It goes inside the bottom as I push my cock in him. It's in place and off I go.

It works for me because of my dick size. If I had a longer cock, it might not work as well.

I've had a bottom leave it in place for multiple fucks also.

The big negative of the things is their price.

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As GuyTopeka said, many guys take the ring out and use the Reality female condom as a big condom. Personally, I like to keep the ring in because you can pinch it (as shown in the package directions) to make it easy to insert in your ass. Also, once the ring is inside the ass, it expands out and makes it harder for the female condom to slip out of the ass. Sometimes the top's dick will hit the ring on the way in, but the ring will slip aside and not be felt by either party.

I accessed the "medical safety studies" on the Reality at my local medical school library. The only data available is based on very small sample sizes (because the company has no money to conduct bigger studies) and therefore you can not draw any conclusions, other than the fact that their small studies showed a statistical possibility that it has a higher rate of failure than regular condoms. However, there is no logical reason for this other than normal statistical variation because the Reality is made out of polyurethane, which is actually a better and stronger material than the latex rubber used in most condoms. You can use oil based lubes with polyurethane, which is another advantage of female condoms.

The only real hazzard I have experienced with Reality female condoms is that it is fun to simulate barebacking because the top can pull out and thrust back in while fucking your ass. If you are not careful, the outside ring can slip aside and the dick can slip in beside the female condom instead of into the center of it, thereby exposing your ass to the real hazards of bareback ass fucking. With an inexperienced top, I will hold onto the outside ring and make sure this doesn't happen.

An interesting side note is that they actually published instructions for anal sex and ran tests, but they never formally filed for government approval because sodomy was still illegal when they sought FDA approval and they had no money to fight being rejected. There is a book that printed a photo of these instructions and explained the politics. This was back in the worst days of AIDS (early 1990s) and they had hoped to get an exception because "gay anal sex" was known to be the primary way HIV was being spread in the USA.

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This thread brings up some interesting possibilities

1. I googled for pics of any man getting anal using this. But found nothing. I'm curious about how it actually looked like. Since barebacking videos are quite popular but frown upon, why don't the porn studios promote this as being closest to barebacking? We can see those slimy cocks in all their throbbing glory.

2. I've met guys with butt plugs in their ass at the saunas. These are butch bears that would usually be considered as tops just from looks. They are using butt plugs to advertise their submissiveness that you don't see. It worked very well because they get nailed as soon as walked out the showers. There's nothing hotter than a man who don't play games and are instantly available, just pull the plug for instant play.

The only problem with that is that the top has to add condom and lub. It somehow spoilt the instant excitement. It also encouraged tops to go for barebacking which the bottom bear had a hard time rejecting because of the instant penetration.

I think adding the female condom before the butt plug would solve the spontaneity problem. This time it would really be instant unplug and insert cock, no fuss, no muss.

Heck, the few times I saw that happening, the scene was so hot with men grabbing the butch bear while he's still walking out the shower and let him have it on the shower floor! It started an instant orgy where usually men are quite reticent.

Oh boy, thinking about the scene gave me an instant boner right now. The horny men gathering around the shower room waiting for him to finish showering, wondering if he's for real. Too good to be true. The cool nonchalant look on his face as everybody watched him towel dry. Bending over to towel his legs and that butt plug was ever moving in his ass as he sucked it in. I almost wanted to run and mount him there. But as usual, too bashful to even move.

As he was leaving, a big guy pretending to go for shower, bumped into him, grabbed his shoulders, pushed him down on all fours, unplugged his toy and rubbed his cock round puckering hole. By now all of us already rushed forward to watch the action up close. Will he or will he not plunge in barebacked.

Like I had thought then, you would think twice about barebacking such a slutty bottom. Being so sexy and desirable makes you wonder about his status. Why do such a handsome dude need to lower his dignity and be the public whore? The top asked for a condom and there's plenty of guys with that handy. All that teasing and looking for a condom dampened the frenzy. Soon as the fucking gets going, everybody was in a mass orgy.

Mama mia, maybe I'll try that but that's just a fantasy only. Hmm maybe if I get to know more and feel that it's safe, why not I've yet to see a porn that oozes so much excitement as that day.

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Right after I posted, I find this at the top of the very page and this guy looked just like one of the bears that I saw. Talk about the devil Even that milky white butt is so familiar, it's so white that it's almost glaring. Drawing everybody's attention to it was the fact that he must be guarding this secret zone very tightly and seldom expose it to light. Now this secret zone is open for anybody's taking. Just unplug and use him.

http://www.men4sexnow.com/User_Homep...=557166&SP=354

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