Old Guys need sex too!
 

Old guys need sex also! I'm 66 yrs old, in excellant health, very clean, and love sex. I use viagra, even though I may not need it every time I have sex, because it helps me have a hard, 7", and very thick, rod for love making. Thirty minutes after taking viagra I am good for the next several hours. Too many people I have met don't care to have sex with an older guy. They are missing out on a good thing. The next time you see an old guy - check him out. He may have something good in store for you.

Well, I can't disagree with this, and I certainly hope that when I enter my golden years I am still going strong and enjoying good sex with a nice mixture of men.

It's important, however, for some of the older guys out there to realize that not all "younger" dudes (relatively speaking) are into sex with a mature partner. I DO get bugged when an older dude gets pissed off and cops an attitude if I turn him down. Hey, I turn down guys much YOUNGER than me, too -- the key is to remember NOT to take it personally.

Some guys can be beautiful at just about any age. I recently hooked up with a guy who was probably close to sixty. He had a Kenny Rogers type of look going on: mound of white hair, very soft, white beard, blue eyes, stocky, classically handsome, tender, wanted to be hugged a lot... it was a cool encounter and I'd have no trouble repeating it.

Yet I've run into guys in their forties or fifties who clearly do not take care of themselves and frankly... look like shit. Sorry, fellas -- I have to pass, but it's not because of your age.

I've always wondered about what my sex life will be when I get older. I rather imagine that I'll tend to stick with men closer to my own age, as has been the case my whole life. Though I like to mix it up a bit still, for the most part I am attracted to men about my age. At the same time, I am SURE I will find younger men attractive as I get older -- kind of hard NOT to!

When faced with someone online who refuses to even consider sex with an older guy -- you simply have to accept that. We can't force anyone to have sex with us. Consider it HIS loss and move on, don't get your feelings hurt and save it up for the guy who will appreciate you -- he's out there; it just might take a while to find him.

Thanks Scruff, I'll take that as a compliment. Just kidding. But it's true. I'm 50 now and thought my cruising days would be long gone by now, but I still get just about anyone I want when I'm cruising. I'm cruising guys close to my own age so I don't get that much rejection.

I'm in great shape if I do say so myself and I see those guys my age that look like hell. It's not the age so much as letting yourself go to pot.

Plenty of younger guys like older men but they don't care for the out of shape, unkept aggressive slobs more commonly known as trolls.

Online cruising is a different story. Say that you're over 40 and guys think you should be in a nursing home. Nothing can change that.

I have a webcam and jack off with much younger guys a lot. Age is almost always ask and most guys can't believe I'm 50, or so they say. Either way it's a boost to my already inflated ego.

Fifty! Pfft!

You're a baby still!

:)

I wouldn't think twice about meeting with a fifty year old guy.

I often get the "You don't look 39" statement from a lot of guys, too.

I'm not in great shape, but I think my face is OK.

You're right, though: online cruising is much harder. I am summarily rejected by many just because of my age, which I find hard to understand sometimes. Some guys have cutoffs of 36 or so. Ridiculous.

For me, sex is on a case by case basis -- if we have something in common, I'm all for it. Age and race and shit aren't important. HOT SEX is.

I am the "Professor Emeritus" on this topic.
 

I first had sex with a man when I was 25. I was in graduate school at the time working on a doctorate.

I had been curious for about a year before it actually happened. I have always been attracted to professional men who were both mature and intelligent. By mature, I mean my age or older.

As I aged, my preference for men did not change. I enjoyed and continue to enjoy encounters with my peers -- both in age and in interests.

Today, one has to caste a wide net to enjoy the same catch. There are many men cruising who, if there profiles are to be believed, are quality guys. Yet, they are always looking for younger guys.

It's a medical fact, your body temperature stays at around 98.6F until you die. You may be able to feel the surface area of a man along with the warmth while you are cuddling but not the wrinkles. I remember clearly what the priest said while counseling "Harold and Maude." Thus, I wonder how much success some of the older guys have with the younger dudes (without a decline in their net worth).

I live by what the photographer Annie Leibowitz (did not have time to check the spelling): "Every morning that you look in the mirror, you should tell yourself that this is the best I am going to look for the rest of my life."

I've enjoyed playing with guys about 20 years older than me. The main thing for me is that they have tried to take care of themselves.

I just hate to hear older guy bitch about how the younger guys ignore them, when they wouldn't give someone their own age a second glance.

Who wouldn't agree?
 

Most people need and want sex, irrespective of their age, race, looks, net worth, etc. . I guess, we would all agree on that one.

IMHE, most guys cruising for sex are either into their peers or into younger dudes. Most, but not all.

I happen to be interested into guys significantly younger than myself. My friends call it 'the mid-20s syndrome'. So far, I have been reasonably successful.

Few of my own rules :D

Always respect a 'No'. No matter how good-looking, in-shape, self-confident, etc., you might be, nothing is worse than begging around for sex. I never hesitate to try, if I am interested, but if the guy signals a 'no' of any kind, I'd quickly move on to give him his space and avoid wasting my own time.

Most guys try to land the hottest dude around (usually 'the hottest' as defined by the mainstream porno industry standards), many men around have their own preferences and would even find a much older, out-of-shape, beer-bellied, etc. guy, to be the man of their choice. If you keep your eyes open, you may notice that this happens more often than you would expect it to.

Most guys I have met, have their own preferences when it comes to the age group they are interested in. At times, and depending on the circumstances at hand, a few guys show a greater degree of flexibility than the other dudes. I would never waste my time with guys who have set their rules in stone, and I do not happen to fit in.

As a rule, big numbers always win. If you wish to stick with your preferences, chances are that the old adage 'the more the merrier' applies here. It isn't too bad to have the laws of statistics on your side.

If you happen to be an 'older' guy looking for the younger dudes, keep in mind that some of the young 'hotties' would love to mess around with you, if they can do it in private. I have met a few hot college dudes who would not want their gay peers to know that they are into 'older guys'. They hate to be labelled 'freaks' or whatever. I could not care less. I am equally happy to do the deed in 'public' and/or in the privacy of my bedroom. I would not call such guys exactly a 'relationship material' but they frequently make the best f-buddies.

Eventually, every age group just like every individual has its own 'pros' and 'cons'. Most cruisers are obviously very skilled at stressing the 'pros' while trying to hide the 'cons'. If you feel that say, your 'net worth' might be one of your 'pros', no harm in putting that on display within reason. If you happen to be a 'gym rat' with a 'killer body' and see that as your forte, show some skin... There is nothing wrong with making do with what you have got.

KD:D

"Older" guys are my favorites!
They tend to be much more patient,erotic and experienced,and usually take a little time to get to know likes/dislikes instead of just jumping straight into bed! (but sometimes that can be good too)

I really only have to be attracted to you, generally to your face. I don't care if you're 18 or 60 (and the closer I get to 60 the higher that latter number goes up! LOL!) I will say though that if you have a big dick it can forgive even the least attractive guys.

Aging or Ageist Attitudes?
 

Yes, indeed, 'Old' guys need sex just as 'Young' guys need sex. Both young and old alike need sex and to have sexual lives with other people. The aging process does not have a significant diminishing effect on our sex needs or our sex lives with other people IF we take good care of ourselves. The physical effects of aging can be minimized by good nutrition, adequate exercise, and positive mental health. The mental effects of aging can be minimized by maintaining a positive mental state reinforced by good nutrition and adequate exercise. The physical and mental effects of aging work together, synergistically.

Ageist attitudes exist in both old and young alike. For the most part, Ageist attitudes are a negative mental aspect of our state of mind. Our sense of well-being is significantly impacted by our own Ageist attitudes and the Ageist attitudes of others. There is no reason why a 66 year old male can't have and enjoy great sex if he has taken good care of himself. Regular adequate physical exercise, good nutrition, and positive mental health will slow down and minimize the effects of aging. Minimizing the negative effect of Ageist attitudes goes a long way towards maintaining a positive and healthy mental state of mind.

For some of us, the effects of Ageist attitudes are well-entrenched and reinforced by some of the prevailing societal attitudes. For example, a 66 year old male may be nearing retirement from the workforce and will soon begin drawing full-retirement benefits from Social Security in addition to any retirement income/savings from other sources. Retirement from the workforce and living on Social Security and other retirement income/savings/sources does not mean the individual's sex needs and lifestyle should also be retired as a social activity.

As a social activity, sex is a constant in our lives and it shouldn't and needn't be diminished by retirement from the workforce, collecting Social Security benefits, or the Ageist attitudes of both the old and young alike.

... and while it is certainly true that some individuals discriminate based on age and other arbitrary factors, it is also true that some people simply are not attracted to older dudes.

Doesn't matter if the older guy in question has taken care of himself -- much of our appearance as we get older is not only attributed to how well we've taken care of ourselves, but also predetermined by our DNA (some twenty-eight year old guys are balding and unfortunately for a few of them, do NOT look good with male pattern baldness at an early age, to give but one small example).

So, when I see a twenty-eight year old dude that is unattractive to me because he's balding, am I being ageist? That would be impossible, wouldn't it? I'm nearly forty myself.

If I run into a sixty-two year old guy who looks unappealing to me, am I being ageist because I turn him down? That can't be, either since I have said YES to guys who are older than that (last week, for example, a cool biker-oldster enjoyed my dick and exclaimed: "I just sucked that monster right the fuck out of ya!") -- good for both of us.

In the spring, I will reach the dreadful "cutoff age" of FORTY. Damn, what a shame. The college boys who eagerly drop to their knees for me NOW will have to reject me once my birthday passes seeing as how I will no longer fit into their stringent requirements as stated in their online profiles.

Or maybe they'll make an exception for "daddy," huh?

How long might I be able to pull off this "cub" shit, right?

Look, the point is this:

Not everything is a SLIGHT against someone else. Not every sexual action and reaction should be judged. NO ONE should EVER feel OBLIGATED to fuck someone else for fear of being politically incorrect.

We can only take that shit so far.

It is also programmed into our DNA to spread our seed with individuals who are young, vibrant, healthy and "of good stock." Doesn't matter that we're mostly homos and not going to be making any new rug-rats in the near future -- this is a drive toward positive reproduction that is independent of sexual identity.

Heterosexual "young bucks" generally want to spread THEIR seed in as many YOUNG, healthy, vibrant females as possible. It is only natural that we want to do the same (except we usually shoot into a hairy asshole instead of a slimy snatch).

We need not become offended by someone else's sexual tastes. Trying to convince others that they SHOULD be horny for someone that they are NOT is akin to psychological rape.

Just how many times have we discussed here that cruising is NOT for the delicate and the easily offended male? Cruising is hard core -- rejection happens ALL THE TIME. And so does the huge ego-boost of a successful "conquest."

We talk of this often because we've all experienced it firsthand. Which leads to the inescapable conclusion that not everyone out there is attracted to everyone else. This is LIFE, that's just how it goes and we need to DEAL with it. Can't take the competition? Stay out of the bookstore!

Fuck, a week ago I was rejected by a dude half my age who proceeded to suck off the nastiest, smelliest, trolliest old fucker I've ever met.

Eh. To each his own. I found someone else and had a great time -- and the old troll got HIS good time, too. (For the record, he IS a slob and he DOES stink and he doesn't take NO for an answer -- hence, he IS a classic troll and his age is only a small part of that definition).

Anyway, once again, for emphasis: TO EACH HIS OWN.

We need not EVER feel guilty for our sexual choices.

I do believe that is what this website is all about, am I right?

While I can't argue that "ageist" attitudes exist, I think when it comes to "cruising" for sex, it's all about sexual attraction and like Scruffy said, we shouldn't be compelled to fuck someone just to be politically correct. Now, if we're talking about ageist attitudes that interfere with job promotions, housing opportunities, etc., that's a whole different ball game and one that needs to be addressed.

I too am getting closer to the 40 cut off, I'll be 37 next month, and see all the "no one under 40" clauses in profiles. However, I post my real age, put a face picture up and I still get hit up by 20 something guys that state no one over 30, so, it's not really a hard and fast rule, it's just that they have a preference.

I don't buy into the whole you're an "ageist" or a "racist" because you decline sexual advances from someone older or of a different race than yourself. I see a lot of bitterness because of these assumptions in profiles on the site I cruise. Statements like "If you have an issue with age..move on" or "If you have race issues...move on". That comes off as hostile, negative and defensive and in the end, a complete turn off.

Obviously, if someone has age or race issues, they're not going to hit up guys that are older or of a different race so there's no need to even make those statements. I see these kind of statements with guys who are over weight, accusing people of being “shallow“ or having an “attitude“ because they‘re being declined more often than they‘d like.

I go on attraction, both physical and mental. I'd take a handsome, sexually adventurous guy with a few extra pounds on him, of any age and race over a guy with model looks who's a complete bore or has a bad attitude. I think a lot more guys are like that than we think. Just go to any local public cruise spot and you'll see so many different types of guys hooking up with each other. It's just that in the "on-line" venue of cruising, it's like ordering take out so you're more apt to put what you're preferences are, where as in public, you go on visual stimulation, chemistry etc.

I'm a hairy guy and read a ton of ads that request "smooth" only. Am I to tell them they should fuck me anyway because it's not right to discriminate against hairy guys? I think not, it's just their preference and so be it and if you can’t hack the rejection, no matter what you look like, the cruising grounds, on-line or public, is not the place to be.

A side note, I didn't find the original posters statement here to be bitter at all. It seemed more a happy jump for joy that he's still able to fuck with the best in his later years and wanted other guys to know that there are some older men that can still keep up so we should keep our options open. In fact, I found it to be inspiring, as I hope to one day reach that age as well.

I can remember a time when I was one of those "cute, young pups" that was disgusted with attention from what I considered at that time "trolls."

It's funny but now that I'm in my 40s......I find my attention turning completely away from the young uns and more my age group/older.

The best blowjob I ever got was from a 70 yr old guy....bald, wrinkled skin, but nice.....I nearly freaked when he took his teeth out (in fact, lost my boner) but after I felt those slippery gums on my cock, I boned up immediately and I was in heaven!

A couple of years ago while at the baths, I was extremely horny....left the door to my room open....I laid (layed? I always get confused on that) on my stomach, ass up....and an older guy came in, played with my ass, rimmed me, then stood, took off his towel, showed a nice thick cock (8" maybe?) and proceeded to give my ass a nice long, smooth fuck.

Don't count out those "old" men.....the talent of experience is wonderful.....

66 plus
 

You damm right age has no bearing, someday the young stud will be old too, then what. I"m a bottom and much rather have an old dud they take there time.

FWIW I'm someone who's always (I'm now 39) prefered men in their 50's/60's/70's and I've often been frustrated at how few of them there seem to be out there. (OK, OK, living in a college town hasn't helped, but still...)

And yes, agree with those that say that *in general*, older men are better lovers.

May as well add this here:

A few days ago I ran into an older, Italian dude. I'm guessing 65. He seriously cruised me all night and while I wasn't pissed at his tenacity, I wanted to wait a bit and see who else was around. Ultimately, though, I gave up my dick for the dude with little compunction.

Holy fuck! This guy knew how to take care of a dick! He was on his knees and worshiping for forty-five minutes with nary a complaint. He used his hands and his mouth with expert precision and held me off from cumming dozens of times. And to be honest, he was NOT bad looking at all, but I HATED his golf cap and was glad when he took it off to blow me! LOL. Minus the golf cap, I had no problems with the dude. In fact, he gave me his number and invited me to his place one of these nights. I will definitely be giving him a call.

Just last night I met a dude who later told me he was visiting from Atlanta. HOT fucking Cuban man, salt and pepper hair, solid body, stern-looking face but some soft brown eyes. I'm guessing he was between 55 and 60. He cruised me in a Buddy Booth and we showed off our dicks to each other but he never came over to my side. He kept cruising me for another twenty minutes until my dumb-ass self figured out that he wanted ME to follow HIM into a larger booth with a smaller bench so he didn't have to kneel on the floor to suck dick.

So I walked over to his booth in a secluded corner -- my dick had been hard a dozen times in the last hour from jerking off repeatedly. I pulled my half-hard, fat dick out of my jeans and stroked it in front of his door. He pushed the door open wider to watch, then waved me inside.

He had a great dick of his own, about the same size, thickness and length as mine. I have a bigger head, but he had nicer balls. He was wrapped up with a slick rubber cockring and he immediately tapped the poppers in my hand; I handed over the bottle to him.

He deftly removed an upper plate from his mouth with a well-practiced hand -- I might have missed it, he was so skilled at doing it. I wasn't freaked out at all and didn't care -- he was a handsome fucker and quite honestly... these were the nicest false teeth I've ever seen! LOL. Anyway, my dick was like a fucking rock at this point -- I was horny as hell last night. He took me inside his mouth with my cock sticking out of my jeans and I could hardly believe I got harder and harder; thought I was about ready to burst before that. His dick deserved some sucking, too, so I leaned over and gave him a little loving. We alternated between jerking each other, sucking each other and rubbing our hard cocks together for quite a while, sharing poppers and getting into some mild ball-play, too.

He sucked on me a little more, though, and I knew I couldn't last for too long. When he dived down on my dick for the last time, the blissful warmth of his hot mouth sent me over the edge. I told him: "Dude, I fucking HAVE to cum..." He didn't want cum in his mouth, so he pulled off -- eh... no problem. I stroked my hard cock in front of him, leaning way back against the wall so my dick was sticking out as far as possible, making it look as impressive as I could. He jerked off while watching. I usually like to cum with slow strokes, but I wanted to see sperm flying around, so I beat it fast and furious, using his saliva for lube. And the cum DID fly, let me tell you. The dude jerked back a little when I blasted. Semen covered my hand and the floor and it dripped from my fingers. I flicked it off and some hit the wall.

Fucking hot as hell, I tell ya. So hot, in fact, that ten minutes later I was hard again and jerking off in another booth letting some other dude get a good show.

Older guys... oh, fuck, yeah. Not a problem. TROLLS -- no fucking way. Trolls of any age can kiss my ass. But a nice, polite, HOT older dude like this guy... you fucking bet I'm going to look for him again before he heads back to Atlanta!

Hell scurffy, why dont you just follow him to atlanta....plenty more up here..

Due to my age, (late 40's) I dont usually get many takers online until we get as far as trading pics. I hook up with some really young dudes when i cruise and we can meet in person usually 18-30 range is my favorite. I just have a thing for younger guys. Too often people pass a judgement due to age and they really rob themselves of a good time. Stats are not as good as a pic. I also dont look my age. Most people dont believe it when I tell them my age.

Trolls??? They can be of any age. They are someone that doesnt do anything for you that continue to insist to the point of being rude. I have run across several in their late 20's and into the 30's.

I had a very hot 68 yo one time...aufull sexy italian man with a big dick! Would never describe him as a troll, even though he is beyond my favorite age and would be in the old category. He is a very sexy and masculine guy and is a lot of fun.

There is a young asian guy at my gym that has messed up several of my good times in the sauna with younger guys. He never seems to get the message that im not interested in him and neither is the guy that im trying to play with.
Now that is what I call a troll!

Yessir... ran into a young troll last night, in fact. Seriously queeny kid, swishing around big-time, giving me the stink-eye for forty-five minutes, following me everywhere I went. I thought I'd tricked him at one point by ducking into a booth when he wasn't looking, but he found me soon enough and dropped half a dozen tokens on the other side. When I cleared the Buddy Window glass, there he was. I rudely turned off my side and left him there to watch videos as his six tokens expired. I figured he'd get the message: he just was NOT my type at all. Young, twinky, cute-looking for OTHER guys, but not to me. Yet he repeated the same bullshit two more times, trailing me and stopping other dudes from checking me out by taking up the other side of every booth I went into. After fucking up my night for an hour and a half, finally he gave up. But as I watched him I noticed he was doing the same thing to two other dudes, too, so it wasn't just me. How nice.

And, yeah... I've actually met THREE dudes from Atlanta who are visiting up here. One is a guy I met last year, again this year, and a second time this year when he came back to visit for another weekend; we ran into each other by chance. Nice. Lots of hot, cool guys in that town, I guess. I may have to start taking some weekend trips there, I think.

Head up this way sometime scruffy...its not that far from Jax.

older guys
 

i have been into this site for a long time . i wish people would listen to what we older guys have to say than look at our age we can show some things that our experience have given us so dont overlook us older guys

Just hooked up with a hot 23 yo on line today.....nice build , masculine.....the age didnt bother him, and when he saw me in person, he really liked what he saw!We spent a pretty hot sweaty hour together.

I'll do that, GASlick. Atlanta is about six hours from Jax (I drive speed limit, most guys make it in five). Will have to plan a weekend there, I think.

I'm still in NY, though. Will return to Florida mid-May and maybe will do Hotlanta in August or September. I always stay forever when I come to NY, just glad I am able to do things like that, travel and have some freedom, but the fun's gotta end sometime. I really have to stick around for Mother's Day, though. Haven't seen my Mom on Mother's Day in over ten years. Have an aunt's birthday on the third, mine on the eleventh, Mom's on the fifteenth -- and Mother's Day. May as well stay and celebrate during this busy month. Besides, to be honest... I don't want to turn forty and be without any family in Jax.

Which is a good segue to say that I'm surprisingly unconcerned about turning forty. Fuck... with all the sex I've been getting lately, I must look OK and have something to offer. I get with guys ranging from their early twenties to mid-sixties. I rather like being right in the middle of that.

I also rather like BEING an "older" guy myself. The kids know I've got some experience to offer and the older guys still see me as a young stud! Well... maybe!

Way I see it, for a man, as long as your dick still works, not a whole hell of a lot matters.

Cheers to the older guys! Myself included.

But of course, I have no complaints with the young bucks, either.

I'm easy. I admit it.