Old guys need sex also! I'm 66 yrs old, in excellant health, very clean, and love sex. I use viagra, even though I may not need it every time I have sex, because it helps me have a hard, 7", and very thick, rod for love making. Thirty minutes after taking viagra I am good for the next several hours. Too many people I have met don't care to have sex with an older guy. They are missing out on a good thing. The next time you see an old guy - check him out. He may have something good in store for you.

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Well, I can't disagree with this, and I certainly hope that when I enter my golden years I am still going strong and enjoying good sex with a nice mixture of men.

It's important, however, for some of the older guys out there to realize that not all "younger" dudes (relatively speaking) are into sex with a mature partner. I DO get bugged when an older dude gets pissed off and cops an attitude if I turn him down. Hey, I turn down guys much YOUNGER than me, too -- the key is to remember NOT to take it personally.

Some guys can be beautiful at just about any age. I recently hooked up with a guy who was probably close to sixty. He had a Kenny Rogers type of look going on: mound of white hair, very soft, white beard, blue eyes, stocky, classically handsome, tender, wanted to be hugged a lot... it was a cool encounter and I'd have no trouble repeating it.

Yet I've run into guys in their forties or fifties who clearly do not take care of themselves and frankly... look like shit. Sorry, fellas -- I have to pass, but it's not because of your age.

I've always wondered about what my sex life will be when I get older. I rather imagine that I'll tend to stick with men closer to my own age, as has been the case my whole life. Though I like to mix it up a bit still, for the most part I am attracted to men about my age. At the same time, I am SURE I will find younger men attractive as I get older -- kind of hard NOT to!

When faced with someone online who refuses to even consider sex with an older guy -- you simply have to accept that. We can't force anyone to have sex with us. Consider it HIS loss and move on, don't get your feelings hurt and save it up for the guy who will appreciate you -- he's out there; it just might take a while to find him.

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Thanks Scruff, I'll take that as a compliment. Just kidding. But it's true. I'm 50 now and thought my cruising days would be long gone by now, but I still get just about anyone I want when I'm cruising. I'm cruising guys close to my own age so I don't get that much rejection.

I'm in great shape if I do say so myself and I see those guys my age that look like hell. It's not the age so much as letting yourself go to pot.

Plenty of younger guys like older men but they don't care for the out of shape, unkept aggressive slobs more commonly known as trolls.

Online cruising is a different story. Say that you're over 40 and guys think you should be in a nursing home. Nothing can change that.

I have a webcam and jack off with much younger guys a lot. Age is almost always ask and most guys can't believe I'm 50, or so they say. Either way it's a boost to my already inflated ego.

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Fifty! Pfft!

You're a baby still!



I wouldn't think twice about meeting with a fifty year old guy.

I often get the "You don't look 39" statement from a lot of guys, too.

I'm not in great shape, but I think my face is OK.

You're right, though: online cruising is much harder. I am summarily rejected by many just because of my age, which I find hard to understand sometimes. Some guys have cutoffs of 36 or so. Ridiculous.

For me, sex is on a case by case basis -- if we have something in common, I'm all for it. Age and race and shit aren't important. HOT SEX is.

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I first had sex with a man when I was 25. I was in graduate school at the time working on a doctorate.

I had been curious for about a year before it actually happened. I have always been attracted to professional men who were both mature and intelligent. By mature, I mean my age or older.

As I aged, my preference for men did not change. I enjoyed and continue to enjoy encounters with my peers -- both in age and in interests.

Today, one has to caste a wide net to enjoy the same catch. There are many men cruising who, if there profiles are to be believed, are quality guys. Yet, they are always looking for younger guys.

It's a medical fact, your body temperature stays at around 98.6F until you die. You may be able to feel the surface area of a man along with the warmth while you are cuddling but not the wrinkles. I remember clearly what the priest said while counseling "Harold and Maude." Thus, I wonder how much success some of the older guys have with the younger dudes (without a decline in their net worth).

I live by what the photographer Annie Leibowitz (did not have time to check the spelling): "Every morning that you look in the mirror, you should tell yourself that this is the best I am going to look for the rest of my life."

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I've enjoyed playing with guys about 20 years older than me. The main thing for me is that they have tried to take care of themselves.

I just hate to hear older guy bitch about how the younger guys ignore them, when they wouldn't give someone their own age a second glance.

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Most people need and want sex, irrespective of their age, race, looks, net worth, etc. . I guess, we would all agree on that one.

IMHE, most guys cruising for sex are either into their peers or into younger dudes. Most, but not all.

I happen to be interested into guys significantly younger than myself. My friends call it 'the mid-20s syndrome'. So far, I have been reasonably successful.

Few of my own rules

Always respect a 'No'. No matter how good-looking, in-shape, self-confident, etc., you might be, nothing is worse than begging around for sex. I never hesitate to try, if I am interested, but if the guy signals a 'no' of any kind, I'd quickly move on to give him his space and avoid wasting my own time.

Most guys try to land the hottest dude around (usually 'the hottest' as defined by the mainstream porno industry standards), many men around have their own preferences and would even find a much older, out-of-shape, beer-bellied, etc. guy, to be the man of their choice. If you keep your eyes open, you may notice that this happens more often than you would expect it to.

Most guys I have met, have their own preferences when it comes to the age group they are interested in. At times, and depending on the circumstances at hand, a few guys show a greater degree of flexibility than the other dudes. I would never waste my time with guys who have set their rules in stone, and I do not happen to fit in.

As a rule, big numbers always win. If you wish to stick with your preferences, chances are that the old adage 'the more the merrier' applies here. It isn't too bad to have the laws of statistics on your side.

If you happen to be an 'older' guy looking for the younger dudes, keep in mind that some of the young 'hotties' would love to mess around with you, if they can do it in private. I have met a few hot college dudes who would not want their gay peers to know that they are into 'older guys'. They hate to be labelled 'freaks' or whatever. I could not care less. I am equally happy to do the deed in 'public' and/or in the privacy of my bedroom. I would not call such guys exactly a 'relationship material' but they frequently make the best f-buddies.

Eventually, every age group just like every individual has its own 'pros' and 'cons'. Most cruisers are obviously very skilled at stressing the 'pros' while trying to hide the 'cons'. If you feel that say, your 'net worth' might be one of your 'pros', no harm in putting that on display within reason. If you happen to be a 'gym rat' with a 'killer body' and see that as your forte, show some skin... There is nothing wrong with making do with what you have got.

KD

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"Older" guys are my favorites!
They tend to be much more patient,erotic and experienced,and usually take a little time to get to know likes/dislikes instead of just jumping straight into bed! (but sometimes that can be good too)

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I really only have to be attracted to you, generally to your face. I don't care if you're 18 or 60 (and the closer I get to 60 the higher that latter number goes up! LOL!) I will say though that if you have a big dick it can forgive even the least attractive guys.

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Yes, indeed, 'Old' guys need sex just as 'Young' guys need sex. Both young and old alike need sex and to have sexual lives with other people. The aging process does not have a significant diminishing effect on our sex needs or our sex lives with other people IF we take good care of ourselves. The physical effects of aging can be minimized by good nutrition, adequate exercise, and positive mental health. The mental effects of aging can be minimized by maintaining a positive mental state reinforced by good nutrition and adequate exercise. The physical and mental effects of aging work together, synergistically.

Ageist attitudes exist in both old and young alike. For the most part, Ageist attitudes are a negative mental aspect of our state of mind. Our sense of well-being is significantly impacted by our own Ageist attitudes and the Ageist attitudes of others. There is no reason why a 66 year old male can't have and enjoy great sex if he has taken good care of himself. Regular adequate physical exercise, good nutrition, and positive mental health will slow down and minimize the effects of aging. Minimizing the negative effect of Ageist attitudes goes a long way towards maintaining a positive and healthy mental state of mind.

For some of us, the effects of Ageist attitudes are well-entrenched and reinforced by some of the prevailing societal attitudes. For example, a 66 year old male may be nearing retirement from the workforce and will soon begin drawing full-retirement benefits from Social Security in addition to any retirement income/savings from other sources. Retirement from the workforce and living on Social Security and other retirement income/savings/sources does not mean the individual's sex needs and lifestyle should also be retired as a social activity.

As a social activity, sex is a constant in our lives and it shouldn't and needn't be diminished by retirement from the workforce, collecting Social Security benefits, or the Ageist attitudes of both the old and young alike.

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... and while it is certainly true that some individuals discriminate based on age and other arbitrary factors, it is also true that some people simply are not attracted to older dudes.

Doesn't matter if the older guy in question has taken care of himself -- much of our appearance as we get older is not only attributed to how well we've taken care of ourselves, but also predetermined by our DNA (some twenty-eight year old guys are balding and unfortunately for a few of them, do NOT look good with male pattern baldness at an early age, to give but one small example).

So, when I see a twenty-eight year old dude that is unattractive to me because he's balding, am I being ageist? That would be impossible, wouldn't it? I'm nearly forty myself.

If I run into a sixty-two year old guy who looks unappealing to me, am I being ageist because I turn him down? That can't be, either since I have said YES to guys who are older than that (last week, for example, a cool biker-oldster enjoyed my dick and exclaimed: "I just sucked that monster right the fuck out of ya!") -- good for both of us.

In the spring, I will reach the dreadful "cutoff age" of FORTY. Damn, what a shame. The college boys who eagerly drop to their knees for me NOW will have to reject me once my birthday passes seeing as how I will no longer fit into their stringent requirements as stated in their online profiles.

Or maybe they'll make an exception for "daddy," huh?

How long might I be able to pull off this "cub" shit, right?

Look, the point is this:

Not everything is a SLIGHT against someone else. Not every sexual action and reaction should be judged. NO ONE should EVER feel OBLIGATED to fuck someone else for fear of being politically incorrect.

We can only take that shit so far.

It is also programmed into our DNA to spread our seed with individuals who are young, vibrant, healthy and "of good stock." Doesn't matter that we're mostly homos and not going to be making any new rug-rats in the near future -- this is a drive toward positive reproduction that is independent of sexual identity.

Heterosexual "young bucks" generally want to spread THEIR seed in as many YOUNG, healthy, vibrant females as possible. It is only natural that we want to do the same (except we usually shoot into a hairy asshole instead of a slimy snatch).

We need not become offended by someone else's sexual tastes. Trying to convince others that they SHOULD be horny for someone that they are NOT is akin to psychological rape.

Just how many times have we discussed here that cruising is NOT for the delicate and the easily offended male? Cruising is hard core -- rejection happens ALL THE TIME. And so does the huge ego-boost of a successful "conquest."

We talk of this often because we've all experienced it firsthand. Which leads to the inescapable conclusion that not everyone out there is attracted to everyone else. This is LIFE, that's just how it goes and we need to DEAL with it. Can't take the competition? Stay out of the bookstore!

Fuck, a week ago I was rejected by a dude half my age who proceeded to suck off the nastiest, smelliest, trolliest old fucker I've ever met.

Eh. To each his own. I found someone else and had a great time -- and the old troll got HIS good time, too. (For the record, he IS a slob and he DOES stink and he doesn't take NO for an answer -- hence, he IS a classic troll and his age is only a small part of that definition).

Anyway, once again, for emphasis: TO EACH HIS OWN.

We need not EVER feel guilty for our sexual choices.

I do believe that is what this website is all about, am I right?

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While I can't argue that "ageist" attitudes exist, I think when it comes to "cruising" for sex, it's all about sexual attraction and like Scruffy said, we shouldn't be compelled to fuck someone just to be politically correct. Now, if we're talking about ageist attitudes that interfere with job promotions, housing opportunities, etc., that's a whole different ball game and one that needs to be addressed.

I too am getting closer to the 40 cut off, I'll be 37 next month, and see all the "no one under 40" clauses in profiles. However, I post my real age, put a face picture up and I still get hit up by 20 something guys that state no one over 30, so, it's not really a hard and fast rule, it's just that they have a preference.

I don't buy into the whole you're an "ageist" or a "racist" because you decline sexual advances from someone older or of a different race than yourself. I see a lot of bitterness because of these assumptions in profiles on the site I cruise. Statements like "If you have an issue with age..move on" or "If you have race issues...move on". That comes off as hostile, negative and defensive and in the end, a complete turn off.

Obviously, if someone has age or race issues, they're not going to hit up guys that are older or of a different race so there's no need to even make those statements. I see these kind of statements with guys who are over weight, accusing people of being “shallow“ or having an “attitude“ because they‘re being declined more often than they‘d like.

I go on attraction, both physical and mental. I'd take a handsome, sexually adventurous guy with a few extra pounds on him, of any age and race over a guy with model looks who's a complete bore or has a bad attitude. I think a lot more guys are like that than we think. Just go to any local public cruise spot and you'll see so many different types of guys hooking up with each other. It's just that in the "on-line" venue of cruising, it's like ordering take out so you're more apt to put what you're preferences are, where as in public, you go on visual stimulation, chemistry etc.

I'm a hairy guy and read a ton of ads that request "smooth" only. Am I to tell them they should fuck me anyway because it's not right to discriminate against hairy guys? I think not, it's just their preference and so be it and if you can’t hack the rejection, no matter what you look like, the cruising grounds, on-line or public, is not the place to be.

A side note, I didn't find the original posters statement here to be bitter at all. It seemed more a happy jump for joy that he's still able to fuck with the best in his later years and wanted other guys to know that there are some older men that can still keep up so we should keep our options open. In fact, I found it to be inspiring, as I hope to one day reach that age as well.

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I can remember a time when I was one of those "cute, young pups" that was disgusted with attention from what I considered at that time "trolls."

It's funny but now that I'm in my 40s......I find my attention turning completely away from the young uns and more my age group/older.

The best blowjob I ever got was from a 70 yr old guy....bald, wrinkled skin, but nice.....I nearly freaked when he took his teeth out (in fact, lost my boner) but after I felt those slippery gums on my cock, I boned up immediately and I was in heaven!

A couple of years ago while at the baths, I was extremely horny....left the door to my room open....I laid (layed? I always get confused on that) on my stomach, ass up....and an older guy came in, played with my ass, rimmed me, then stood, took off his towel, showed a nice thick cock (8" maybe?) and proceeded to give my ass a nice long, smooth fuck.

Don't count out those "old" men.....the talent of experience is wonderful.....

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You damm right age has no bearing, someday the young stud will be old too, then what. I"m a bottom and much rather have an old dud they take there time.

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FWIW I'm someone who's always (I'm now 39) prefered men in their 50's/60's/70's and I've often been frustrated at how few of them there seem to be out there. (OK, OK, living in a college town hasn't helped, but still...)

And yes, agree with those that say that *in general*, older men are better lovers.

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