The following Nifty story

Gay Anal Sex Ed: Learning the joy of being fucked in the ass painlessly
(http://www.nifty.org/nifty/informati...al-sex-ed.html)

is a good one for giving to anal newbies.

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That's pretty good advice, with maybe one exception. In my experience, the squatting fuck is NOT the easiest for beginners. Why? Because you really can't relax your anal sphincter while doing squats. The old theory is that the newbie can control the entry by being on top, but a better way is just to communicate with the guy who is fucking you.

In my experience (and I've got experience) the best way to begin is by "spooning" (laying side-by-side). You get all the joys of anal sex with a little less penetration, which is a good thing for a newbie. And he's still "in control" in that he isn't pinned down in any way.

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Yup, I was never able to do a squat fuck easily as I could do a spoon fuck. Despite this, I liked that this nifty story emphasized that everybody was different and you would need to experiment to see what works for you. Too many times, people think what works for them is good advice for everybody else. I think the best you can do is to share what works for you and be open to trying other methods that work for different people.

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