Has anybody had any experience with techniques/exercises to enable you to have multiple orgasms? I know some guys can do this spontaneously but I'm looking for a way to learn how to do it. I've read the book by Keesling and am interested in what else is out there.

If you have any interesting experiences with Tantric techniques I'm sure people would be interested in hearing about that as well.

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Pike's another guy that isn't fond of me, but... oh, well. It's Christmas, time to be charitable.

All depends on the definition of "multiple orgasm," dude. Men don't climax in succession as women do, obviously (SOME women).

It is fairly simple for me to sustain a level of pleasure that FEELS even better than an actual orgasm -- it feels like a constant cumming sensation, without the actual ejaculation, which tends to re-set the pipes and force a refractory period.

It takes an extreme amount of effort and dedication to be able to shorten or eliminate a refractory period to the point where you can just stay hard and climax a few times WITH ejaculation. Admittedly, I cannot do this. Well, not really. A few times I've been able to go halfway soft, chill for a few minutes, and have my partner du jour get me fully hard again without a full-on break. But this is rare and generally not something I do often -- takes a lot out of you, and frankly... I'm getting older.

Young men can stay hard and just go again, but this isn't really the result of Tantric-style training -- it's just youth and hormones and a system of arteries not yet clogged with cholesterol.

Much Tantric pleasure for men is in the form of prolonged sexual stimulation, which in and of itself often leads to that sensation of "never-ending orgasm."

"Ancient" peoples often had two schools of thought about ejaculation -- MORE is better and LESS is better.

Depending on where in the world you live and what period in history it was... some guys trained themselves to ejaculate as often as possible, with masturbation and actual sex. Others trained for restraint, delayed gratification, and longer sexual encounters by withholding climax.

I personally like to hold back as long as I can. I enjoy the unending orgasmic sensation, and the actual ejaculation is highly powerful when I get around to it.

But... I am no Tantric master. This IS something I'd love to get into on a higher level, but finding a partner who is willing to explore that realm is MASSIVELY difficult these days.

And, of course, TRUE Tantric practitioners dedicate essentially their entire lives to Tantric meditation, both within and outside of sexual experiences.

Truth is, most of us do not have time for this sort of thing. We Westerners live busy lives and just can't really spend an hour on meditation every day.

But that doesn't mean we cannot DABBLE and have some fun. This is what I try to do whenever I can.

I've been delaying orgasm through masturbation practice since I was a teenager, so I'm pretty darn good at it. In fact, I am not bullshitting when I've stated many times here that I rarely jerk off and allow myself to cum. After five or six days of not having an orgasm I will feel it is necessary to ejaculate so I can get some fucking sleep. REAL Tantric artists would be able to tolerate much more than that. But... five or six days... that's pretty good for the average guy.

Understand that if I can find sex for real I will almost always take it and not worry about withholding! But during those rare times when I am unlucky... I just save up the cum and make good use of the down-time.

I do, however, play with my dick often. I just don't let myself cum. Truth in advertising, though: once in a while I'll "slip" and blast off even if I'm trying not to. But mostly... I'm in control.

And being in control is what it is all about. I'd say that practicing control through masturbation is the easiest way for the average guy to start to learn how to reach a state of constant climax sensation during real sex.

That's really not a bad prescription, if you think about it.

Male Kegels are good, too.

Mostly... learn about your penis in great detail. Know what gets it off, learn how to control yourself in various situation.

When you get more advanced at abstaining orgasm during masturbation, you can make it tougher. Jerk off in a new way that you are not used to. If you go slow, go fast instead. If you don't use lube, try some. Use toys. Whatever. Give your dick different sensations to simulation different real-life sexual situations. If you normally sit, stand up. Use the other hand. Different angle. Watch a porn and jerk off like a guy in the film, try to follow what he is doing, especially if he jerks off differently from you.

DO learn some relaxation techniques. Breathing. Control. Get in "the zone."

When it's all going well, during real sex, there are times when I can just sit back and know I'm in total control. A guy could try and try and do everything in his power to get me to cum, but I won't allow it. Yet there's a switch that can be flipped, once you know how to do it. When you flip that switch, you can turn over the control to HIM and just let the cum fly anytime you want.

The key is... you don't want to ever feel like you are FIGHTING to stop an orgasm. It should sort of feel like a balance between you and the other dude.

And that's the next most important thing: a partner who is willing to go this route.

I have two buddies who can get me to this state, but have yet to find another. However, for both of them... they are not always willing to go as far with it as I might like.

One guy in particular, if he's had a few drinks in him, thinks it is fun to ignore me when I ask for certain things -- he TRIES to make me cum far sooner than I want. Yet at other times, he goes with the flow and keeps me on edge for hours and hours.

Which leads to... COMMUNICATION. Doing this with a partner requires communication. Say what you need. Be specific and direct and kind about it.

You don't pull off this kind of thing in a blow and go situation, of course.

Now, what I'd LOVE to find is a buddy who is not only into this, but a buddy that I'd love to do this FOR as well. No one so far shows any interest in teasing his own dick in this manner and stepping outside the realm of "get it wet, stroke it, cum."

I didn't get into sexual acts themselves -- it doesn't matter. You can do this with a blowjob, you can do it fucking, you can do it jerking each other, you can do it with frottage... whatever. That's up to YOU and HIM.

But YOU have to learn how to control your dick FIRST, and you do this through masturbation and YEARS of practice. You have to WANT it.

I recall one time with a buddy sucking my dick and I told him "it just feels like I'm cumming and cumming and cumming... it's BETTER than cumming." And it WAS.

Finally... the good old prostate. I find that with prostate stimulation I can gain even MORE control over my dick -- but a big caveat is that the guy doing it has to be willing to do it in the way I ask. If he goes crazy with a prostate massage -- he can get me to lose it sooner. But if he's easy... I can last forever, and almost always cum AT WILL, which is a HUGE benefit. If he gets too tired and really wants my cum, all he's gotta do is ask and he gets it. Again... flipping that switch.

If you or anyone else is looking to eliminate or shorten a refractory period and NOT go soft, to climax repeatedly with essentially ONE erection... Ah, well... THAT is massively hard to accomplish. You TRULY need to learn Tantric Yoga, meditate daily, have a healthy body and mind, be free from anxiety, at one with your Universe... and it especially helps to be about 21 years old.

Or you could just take Viagra, I suppose!

I'd love to extend my knowledge of this in practice with a willing partner, but TIME is so limited. Real life gets in the way.

But that doesn't mean we cannot strive for better, more intense, longer-lasting sexual experiences.

There's an attitude that goes along with it as well. You really can't be of the mind-set that sex is something to be "completed" or that orgasm itself is the POINT of any sexual encounter. You must want to prolong your pleasure and your partner's pleasure. You need to be the type of guy that is into bringing yourself as close as possible to something as intensely wonderful as an orgasm -- and be willing to say: "Not right now, not yet."

The VAST majority of dudes I have met focus on the orgasm and little else. "Cum and go."

Nothing wrong with that. I enjoy a quickie as much as the next guy.

But I DREAM of a partner that can get into the stuff I get into.

I am fortunate to have to willing cocksuckers who get me there, at least some of the time.

Like anything else you want in life, it's practice, practice, practice. Alone and with a partner. As often as you can.

KNOW THYSELF.

And most importantly at all -- ENJOY the journey and never worry if you "slip up" and cum faster than you wanted or cannot reach a state of "perpetual" erection.

You can, in fact, take breaks during this kind of sexual experience. As we get older, this is almost mandatory.

I find far more energy is expended by cumming repeatedly all night long, and building up to a mental state of being able to have each orgasm as good as the last when doing this sort of thing is EXTREMELY difficult. Only those with years and years of skill and practice in Tantric arts can reach this level of sexual pleasure.

So I go for the other side of the coin, which more attainable for me and easier to put into practice, given the limited time I have and limited number of willing partners -- delaying ejaculation but reaching a state of bliss that is comparable and often BETTER than an actual orgasm.

Get practicing, guys. And LOVE your dick -- if you don't love your own dick, it ain't gonna happen.

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Quoth Scruffycub:

"Men don't climax in succession as women do"

Actually, this is what I was asking about, having multiple orgasms without going soft and waiting thru a refractory period. And I have met guys who can do it and even did it myself a couple of times spontaneously. It helps if you are young but there are techniques of body control that you can learn to make it a repeatable experience, even if you are older.

Using the technique in Keesling's book I have been able to reduce my refractory period but haven't achieved the holy grail of true multiple orgasm. I'll keep working on it and maybe I'll get it to work some day. If not, it still makes my orgasms more intense.

I'm really surprised that no one here has experimented with this. Maybe that is because no one is here.

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years ago i had a buddy who just liked getting head. No edging, I'g be going at it about 20 min+ and then he'd cum hard., I'd keep going and he'd cum several times about two min or less apart, each with a body shuddering series of blasts. 1st couple better than average loads, but run out of juice after a few and just shudder... dang I miss him. (yes I swallowed every drop)

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