Hi. I am an older guy living in a rural area. Joined Grindr recently. At home the first two hits are a few miles away, but the third might be 30 miles away. When I travel to cities, I see a bigger variety of guys, and maybe all 50 within a few miles. Met a really nice guy not too long ago and had great sex. The age thing will depend on where you are. If you're in a college town, you're going to feel ancient. I was in Palm Springs not too long ago and felt like a mere youth.

I only use a face pic when I'm away from home (it's easy to change your photo). And I have my phone behind a PIN for privacy. I'll look into the web-based as above, thanks for that info.

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Thanks for posting your experience Naked Al...

You are the first "older guy" I have heard of with good results there - seems like it is mostly younger / twinks on that app...

The nice part is the initial downloads are free so they can be checked out at no cost!

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I'm not much of a phone user, home landline or otherwise. Some years ago I broke down and got a cheap cell phone pay-as-you use it thing only because payphones were disappearing and I had a problem on the road (I put $100 in it and good for a year and rarely come close to using it up) But lately been thinking about one of these smartphones (gps nav, many stores have discounts you need a smart phone for, etc) and of course these gay-apps, which are not accessible from a desktop (and of course "location' from a desktop is isp/ip address based which always thinks 10 miles away somewhere I am not)
So I am wondering how these apps have progressed since this thread was active, nearly 4 years later? Are any 'preferred' when one does not live in a cityzone?

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Actually, modern desktop browsers have the capability to ask you to share your GPS location, which is more accurate than using the IP address location. I often see it on supermarket, drugstore, and other retail sites for their store locator pages. It may also depend on the capabilities of your computer, but I don't know.

I had set this up for the Sex Listings pages several years ago. Then it "broke" when browser upgrades required the method to use an "https" secure connection. After rehosting last spring, the Sex Listings once again ask if you want to share your location. This allows you to search for places near you.

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oh i've told my pc the street address, gps coord, etc, never seems to have an affect, at least on most sites.

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Funny here it is 4 years later - and I still have not had the courage to download one of the apps...

Coming of age in the 70's when gay was still so closeted I guess is something you never totally get over - like Apple gives a shit who I have sex with as long as I pay my bill and upgrade my phone!

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I live in a rural area with a lot of small "un googled" towns. I use growlr, scruff, squirt and sometimes adam4adam both squirt and adam can use the web browser. They all have their pros and cons but that last two, squirt and especially adam have proximity details down to 100ft! I have found myself driving around and watching how close I can get to someone without actually asking them.

Now, on an android phone at least, you cas easily Un-Install the apps when you're done using them for the time being. Then re-install it and log back in when you have the chance. I have a problem with someone looking at my phone so I've adapted to hide better.

I paid attention to the craigslist ads. Since that went down the apps have been growing and I can tell some of the game players from the wording in their ads. BTW, craigslist personals still live in the Missed Connections / Activities / Volunteers sections. The activities section doesn't require a phone number to post an ad, the others do. You have to be creative in the post and avoid actually saying that you want sex or want to get fucked, etc. Some examples are: "Need a hairy man to come dig a hole in my yard" or "Wanted: Experienced sausage tasters"

The apps are just like craigslist. Be safe meet in public first, crop a picture if you desire.

I worked in a sex shop for years up until 2016. Each holiday brought a certain set of travelers, like Thanksgiving or Christmas. Each year the groups of guys and regulars got smaller. Guys using the apps meet somewhere else for free. There are no clubs or gay bars here so I've determined the apps as being the cause of the lower attendance. most of the cruising spots are forgotten as well.

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You can also uninstall them on the iPhone - however they will remain in your install history.

What I wish was there was some way to change the icon for an app - so you could download one and hide it as "Weather" or something nondescript so if someone looks at your phone they don't know what it is.



There are a few adult book stores still around - I always thought it would be fun to work in one - see all the guys cruising - maybe make some friends - however I know a guy that did work in one for a brief time and he said that mopping the booths at the end of the day was disgusting! LOL

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You got that right! Bet I can "top" that though...the drunk boys would come in and piss and shit in the booth, yea had to clean all that up, too!

I will never Unsee the friggin 9 inch cucumber some guy left on the stool. I can just imagine that hilarious look this guy had buying groceries and making sure he got his cucumber LOL.

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"squirt and especially adam have proximity details down to 100ft!"
yeah good example how it doesn't work for a pc. I chatted with a couple who were in the 100ft range. (This would mean they were in my yard or in front of my house!) They were always several miles away. (5 and as much as 20 road miles)

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On Squirt I have done a search "within 5 miles" and had people in other states show up! I assume the search is done by zip code - either lots of people enter their zip code wrong or they have major issues with their search engine.

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