Nightly Ritual

For many years, from the mid 1970’s through mid 1990’s I was partnered with a great man, a massive bear of a guy who was the center of my world. Irv was 6’3”, usually weighed in at about 270 or more, big hands, big feet, big everything and a very energetic, strong total top of a man. The thought of me trying to reverse rolls on him never came up. He was the perfect match to my natural bottom nature and physique and I could handle his size and strength as well as his kinky imagination. Life has not been the same since I lost him in 2003 and I have yet to find anyone who could fill the massive void his passing left. WE had it all until cancer robbed us.

But on to better thoughts. I often get asked by straight and bi guys whether male on male sexual and romantic relationships wear thin over time and whether or not the sex stays frequent and intense. In many cases life happens and gets in the way but in ours we made our relationship in and out of bed the top priority and kept a clear focus on keeping sexually active with each other. The fact that we were sexually perfectly matched and in that we were really unique helped a great deal. I doubt that he could have found a bottom who could both keep up with him sexually and live with him domestically. And I found the same rare mix in him. Our in and out of bed lives did not really have a clear line of division. One was a part of the other and easily blended.

And that brings up the subject of our ritual. Every relationship either settles in to a ritual or it starts to fade in to happenstance sex. Ours emerged from what came naturally to both of us in our own way. It usually started with us deciding to head to the bed room well in advance of sleep time in order to have play time. Getting him hard and ready for sex was not a problem and I usually accomplished that by giving him a back rub and then transitioning in to a pre-sex blow job. When he was ready he would normally put me on my back, scoop up my legs with his arms, move the backs of my knees on to his shoulders and then mount me. As he moved in on me, curling my back up and lifting my fanny off the bed I aligned myself to take the head of his cock straight on and would guide myself in to the path of his thrust. Once in me, he would rock forward, placing his weight on me and pinning my back to the bed with my fanny elevated. At that point he would take me all the way and begin his thrusting action. Irv was over 10 inches in length when hard and thick. As he pressed in to me he opened me to the point of stretching out my sphincter and lower rectum. The pressure also impacted directly on my prostate and as he thrust in to me that pressure and bumping would force whatever fluid was in my prostate out in the form of pre-cum. Feeling this happen was a huge turn on for him and having me in both a totally receptive and submissive position drew out his lust. In this position it is very easy for a bigger, stronger man to really have his way with his bottom and the bottom must be prepared to take this kind of a beating. I was well trained with proper diet and proper preparation as well as lots of workouts every week so it was perfectly natural and comfortable to take this kind of hard anal sex. For me I began a slow state of orgasm from the time he entered me and began beating up my prostate until the time that I actually came. This usually happened in the first five minutes of his thrusting and when it happened it lifted him in to an even higher state of bull rage.

At this point I was pinned, rolled up, grappled and nailed to the bed and my task at that point was to keep myself properly aligned to his thrusts and work my inner muscles to pleasure him in a way that I learned over time. He responded with harder and deeper thrusts and convulsions of pleasure. We lost ourselves in our rhythm and time passed without notice. As we fucked we worked toward the ultimate goal which was his orgasm. I could read his body so well that I knew exactly when that magic moment would come and responded by maintaining proper alignment, position and access as well as working his cock with my muscles to keep up the pressure and pleasure and then when he approached early orgasm I would ease up and give him time to collect himself and draw back a bit to prevent an early orgasm. Over time you learn to read your lover and his responses and learn to react to them to give him the best ride and the best orgasm possible. For instance, Irv was usually 85% hard while fucking me except for the last 60 to 90 seconds before his eruption. I could always tell he was ready to cum when his cock became painfully erect and hard. Another way I noticed was how his normally big and droopy balls and sack would recede in to his scrotum, pull up tight against his scrotum and assume their launch position right before he came. When these two events happened I knew it was time to stop delaying and let him cum naturally and without any restraint. He was a very hard cummer, shot semen hard and in long ropes and also pounded deep and hard to drive his cum deep in to me. He also applied his full strength to me and that could get uncomfortable unless you knew the best defense was to just hang on, cling, take it and ride it out. Resisting could end in injury because he was a massively strong guy and could have probably broken my wrist or collar bone without intending to do so. So I knew to ride the wave by clinging to him until he had completely expended his energy and his lust in me. Once he had expended himself he normally collapsed on me and remained on me and in me until he collected his breath and strength enough to roll off. At that point we would normally cuddle with me inside of his arc and drift off to sleep.

On special nights, weekends and such we would bring out a little kink and maybe vary positions and bring in some furniture and leather. No matter how elaborate we got it always got down to complete control and complete penetration leading to complete orgasm. Varying our weekend sex kept our routine sex exciting and fulfilling.

So bottoms, let me give you the “don’t try this at home” warning. In order to take on this kind of sex you have to be committed to the lifestyle. This includes diet, training and working out with toys and learning how to take large objects up your hind side and learning to do so without getting injured. Start slow, work with your man and work your way up to it. This is not the kind of drop-your-pants-and-bang sex that you can do at the spur of the moment and do so successfully. So work with it and over time you can learn to provide the intensity and survive the intensity. Be well.

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