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"Also took a boy off from one of the bars on the (supposedly) dreaded Soi Twilight Wednesday. I took him off for two nights, but he stayed with me at home for three days & nights and was tipped 15,000 Baht. He then asked to stay until at least Monday, but he made a point of saying he didn't want any more money. He's lying naked on the sofa watching some Vin Diesel movie now and looking good enough to eat."

As the average Thai worker takes home around Bht 8,000 per month, I'm not surprised he was happy to stay for a week after a Bht 15,000 tip....plus I guess all meals found! .....that apart I do agree with your sentiments on treating boys with respect, as individuals. Every one of my 200+ boys has been different in personality and sexually, which is one of the pleasures and indeed privileges of being allowed by them to enjoy great intimacy with such tasty morsels. Sanook maak maak!

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An average worker in my country takes home about 4,000 USD a month. For twice that amount I am sure I would endure three nights with any old fart.

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Seems to be a hint of criticism of the negative comments re Soi Twilight boys. And i have contributed to that criticism, and my comments still stand.

Perhaps the positive experiences don't get enough 'airplay' and i guess that's an unfortunate side of human beings at large.

Yes I have had some very positive experiences and today I have several very close very genuine Thai friends who I met many years ago when they worked in bars. And I have several farang friends who have lived here in Thailand for many years, in loving caring equal monogamous relationships with young men they met in bars.

There's also the other side of the coin that we all need to remember. I've mentioned before that my old Thai friend who published a Thai gay magazine for many years shared many stories with me about bar boys being cheated (boy stays all night, perhaps a couple of days and nights, then "sorry, I've run out of cash, I'll come back to your bar tomorow evening with some money - never seen again") (customer avoids paying tip then disappears then possibly tells his friends "but I took him to the movies, and I bought him new jeans and I took him to the Oriental for dinner, and now he expects money as well"), pushed hard to take drugs, promised the world, left with hotel bills etc., by farang (and other Asians).

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Exactly the reason why Turning Point collects the minimum tip in advance from people they don't know. It happens more often than you'd think.

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Since I raised the point, here are two real events that I think are worth sharing with other posters:

1. From my own direct knowledge. Farang (living permanently in Bkk) is HIV+ but never tells anybody, full AIDS not yet appeared, still enjoying quite OK health. Meets very pleasant (and hot) young man in an office and invites him to apartment. Farang convinces the young man to have bareback anal sex. The young man moves in quickly and they fuck each other regularly bareback. Farang regularly brings other boys home for threesomes. Eventualy threesome idea fades but farang still brings other boys home and live-in is regularly expected to go any sit/sleep in the 24 hr coffee shop attached to the apartment.

Both start to get sick and farang denies he is HIV-. Both quickly gravely ill, farang refuses to take care of the young man who is confirmed to have full lown AIDS and now too ill to work. Friends take him home to Northern province where he quickly dies on the floor of the family hut with no medication. (This is well before any form of cocktail is available in Thailand.) Farang hangs on a bit longer, buys a ticket to go home, very ill and weak but sill takes boys from bars. On the night before flight takes boy from bar, next morning holds a sale in his room and sells everything. Keeps enough money for his taxi fare to airport and departure tax, give s the balance of the sale proceeds to the one night stand - about 40,000Baht. Has no other further funds whatever. On arrival carried from aircraft. Refuses medical care, refuses ambulance transport, begs for money at airport for taxi fare to relatives house, dies 2 or 3 days later.


2. Initially related by my old Thai friend who published a gay magazine, then I became involved along with some other farang friends. Now about 12 / 14 years ago.

Farang comes to Bangkok (first time) for several weeks holiday. Meets young man who is working in a host bar to get enough funds to stay in university. Farang decides he will support his new 'boyfriend' and despite protests by BF he is set up in an expensive 2 bedroom apartment, around 50,000Baht per month rent plus utilities etc. Farang also pays a deposit on a large expensive motorcyle (which the boy doesn't want). Farang says he will send money every month for the rent / motorcycle payments, etc.

First month funds arrive, end of second month no funds, and rent/MC payment now late. Boy tries to ring his supporter but always encounters strange voices and 'not here / moved out / don't know where he is now' comments. Landlord now getting angry and daily calls from hire purchase company re MC payment. Young man is desperate, doesn't know what to do and he visits my Thai friend the magazine publisher for advice. (When there were many gay magazines it was common for boys with problems to visit / send letters to the publishers for advice.)

Boy takes 20Baht and goes outside for a quick meal. Comes back and his room has been padlocked. Landlord says 'no entry till rent is paid'. Boy asks if he can at least take his wallet with ID card. NO.
Boy also needs to register at Uni for next semester but cannot because all his personal documents are locked in the room and no money.

Landlord and MC company now getting real heavy and MC has been repossessed, but still large amount outstanding. Boy goes to Indian loan shark and borrows money to clear all the debt. Now landlord wants one month extra rent. That's borrowed also from loan shark. Typically the loan shark is adding 20% interest per month to the outstanding balance.

Study is now out of the question, he is now working several jobs to pay the loan shark. Starts work at 4am as a runner carrying crates etc in a fresh market, works as a waiter for 2 hrs at lunch time, works as a massage boy from 3pm then works in a go go bar every night, never has a day off. Lives in a tiny cockroach infested room off Soi Suan Phlu, no furniture, just a dirty blanket on the cement floor, shared filthy bathing area.

He pays back about 60% of the money in about 2 years. My magazine friend now mentions the story to me, for the first time. I call the farang in Sydney, he listens but says he can't help (and doesn't see why he should help) and doesn't want his Sydney BF to know about this situation.

I ask several other farang in Bkk to pool some money and we quickly pay off the debt. By this stage the young man is not at all keen to have any contact with farang and is initially conerned that there are strings attached.

He's now missed three years of study. We also give him enough funds to get back to uni (clothes/fees, etc), and pay six months rent on a room in a better building, pay for furniture, TV etc.

He goes back to his original host bar and continues uni. He's since graduated. I still see him ocassionally, he's a nice young man, and he now opens up and talks. He tells he would like to get married but he can't get close to anybody - can't trust anybody.

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Thanks for the post, Scoops. I, too, have heard first-hand stories about how farangs treat guys here in The Kingdom. When they're here on holiday, they are, quite often, free-wheeling with their money and think nothing about throwing it around. They think it is fun to "impress" Thai guys with how much they can buy. I have heard of guys buying their "special boyfriends" everything from motorcycles to cars to condos. And, as you've recounted, the Thai guy inevitably ends up on the short end of the stick.

You and your friends pooling money to help the second guy out is noble, indeed. He will be endebted to you in his heart forever. He will, of course, be eternally scarred by the treatment he received from the visiting farang and will, therefore, have a difficult time creating long-lasting relationships. I feel SO sorry for so many of these guys.

Thanks again for the sobering post.

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Very sad - and very sobering. So many posts on this board give the impression of farangs just using Thai guys like a piece of meat. True, that's one way of looking at money boys in particular, and we do after all pay for a service. But whether it's just a casual encounter or one that develops into some kind of longer relationship, these guys have lives and feelings which we should all respect. One thing I have found over many years is how many young Thai guys are desperate for 'affection' and even 'love'. And when you show them genuine affection, most (even though there are always some bad apples) will return it with interest and be hugely grateful for it. Ten years ago I helped one guy through University - and no-one could have a more loyal friend.

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I appreciate your view, but I think looking at compensation in terms of minimum pay that some day laborer or store clerk might earn is specious. Most construction workers or 7-Eleven clerks couldn't do what these boys do, at least not with the same elan as most of the guys I have offed manage. I'm not talking about someone who lies there like a slab of meat, but someone who makes me believe briefly that he's enjoying the sex with me as much as I am with him. He's a magician and an actor worthy of a star at Graumann's Chinese Theater.

EXACTLY! Sanook Maak Maak. He was having fun. I was having fun. For awhile I didn't have to remember I'm over 60 and ( if I were back in the US or UK) should be sitting at home alone with some stray cats and a cup of cocoa watching Jeopardy or Coronation Street on TV, and he didn't have to freeze to death standing half naked on a stage bouncing to some music he had heard 99,000 times before.

I'm not trying to outdo Mother Teresa or looking for a UN Humanitarian award. I really like most of the guys I end up with and I want them to feel good about themselves and I have ALWAYS been repaid many times over.

But do remember the guy was great to be with and ready to "perform" repeatedly BEFORE he knew what the tip was going to be. Our first night together, after repeated "encounters" of the very pleasant kind, I jokingly asked if we could go one more time and he responded, " For you, no problem." Remember money hadn't yet been discussed. It really made me wonder how badly he was normally treated if he could say something like that.

My point is that if someone keeps getting boys with attitude and who want to do as little as possible, no matter how many years that someone may have lived in Thailand, the problem may not be the boys. Even the few boys I've offed who didn't work out well were pleasant and trying to please, they just didn't click with me or they might have been more suited to clerking at 7-Eleven.

I know some people need to distance themselves from their sexual "partners" and disparaging them somehow helps to compensate for a poor sense of self esteem, but I don't want dehumanized sex. For that an inflatable doll would probably suffice.

Definitely: Sanook Maak Maak and Sanook samrab took khon!

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