Gimme a break. How many people actually view themselves as racist? The average racist, outside a sexual context, makes the same kind of argument: he just wants to associate with his own kind, he's got nothing against black people, just a preference for white companions.

Most of us are smart enough to see the racist undergirding of that argument. It's not any different in a sexual context. Just because you don't think your "preference" is racist doesn't mean it isn't an expression of broad cultural racism. By that I mean to say I don't think YOU are a racist in a personal sense but that you certainly are living out a particular form of the culture's racism.

Intersting that you fetishize Latinos. Many black men complain of the same experience with white men -- being fetishized. They regard this as another racist expression, since it usually involves stereotyping.

N2's advice is good. In the same way you address any other racial "preference," try actually becoming sexual with a black guy. You might find yourself wondering why you bothered to cling to your "preference" so long.