Thanks for your replies guys...even though only SunnDogg actually addressed my actual question.

I have been reading the replies over the past few days with interest. The largest point which comes out in these posts from everyone with the exception of SunnDogg is that in your opinion I am a racist because I dont want go get on my knees in front of a black guy. I dont understand the tendency on these
boards to find fault in questions but never answer the question asked....I intentionally asked that the question of racism not be addressed. I am not concerned with this. I am concerned with the focus of
my question. How to continue to go to this
place and have a good time with the individuals to whom I am attracted and who find me attractive...and politely reject those to whom I am not attracted. I often read posts on these boards and find certain people try to "over-intellectualize" the subject at hand. The replies to my post have proven to be no exception.

I know that the easiest was to handle this is
to simply give up this formerly fun cruising place and find another place. I could do this but I would rather continue to go to Midtown from time to time as there are still a few men there to whom I find myself attracted. The problem as I stated before is that there are some black guys at the Midtown Spa (baths) who will not take no for an answer. There are many black guys there who are polite and no problem. I am not interested in sex with them and many accept this with a polite, "Thanks, have a good evening", etc....but many like to follow me around and try to disrupt anything that I get into...These are the guys with whom I have a problem. I would also have a problem if this behavior were from a white, Latino or Asian guy as well. I dont appreciate this type of aggression behavior in any race.

I was at Midtown last friday evening and had a good time as I took a Latino man to my private room and we had fun for about two hours. I was there for about thirty minutes before this guy arrived. I would say in a very unscientific way that there were about sixty guys there...of these sixty about fifty were black, six Latinos and four white guys. I was approached several times by black and white guys. I only problem that night was one black guy who followed me around. He kept knocking on my door when I was in the room with the Latino....why? He should have found someone else....This is just an example. I fully expect someone..maybe Bongo...to say that I should have opened the door and had sex with him to satisfy his FETISHIZATION of white people. I completely disagree....I opened the door and asked him to go away and leave us alone. I finally had to tell him that I would get the management involved if he continued his behavior. At last another black guy saw what was happening and told the first one to leave me alone. At this time I think the "problem guy" left as I did not hear from his again (Thank God)..

I am 38 years old, dark blond hair and green eyes. I am 5'9" tall and my weight is 175 pounds. There is very little fat on my body and I am muscular and tone. I do work out usually four times each week. The reason I add this information is so I can explain that one of the reasons that I try to take very good care of my body is so that I will be attractive to guys that I find attractive. I do not take the time and spend the effort and money to make myself attractive and available to guys to whom I am not attracted just so they will be satisfied.

One of the replies noted that I used the
phrase "these people"...Well, it is "these
people" to whom I am referring. What is the
problem with this choice of words? There is
no problem. Perhaps I could have said "these guys" or "these invididuals"...whatever but
to people who hold the belief that any white people who does not want sex with a black guy is a problem, nothing would have been correct...I sometimes find it amusing that these politically correct people who seem to exist solely for the purpose of apologizing for "the past", post to every board in which they can cause some type of controversy. I think these guys would have me on my knees in front of every black guy in the place...then paying them the reparations some seem to want from the slave days. What a joke!

To the point for fetishes. I do prefer Latino men. I greatly enjoy them. I love the culture, music, language and of course,
the men. These is nothing in this world that I enjoy more than to travel to Spanish speaking countries (with the exception of Spain). This may be a fetish in the clinical sense of the word, but I certainly do not reject other white guys, Asians, Indians, etc. The reason I find it necessary to address this is because one of the posters said that "many blacks are fetishized by white guys". There is probably some truth to this, but there are also a large number of black guys who will only have sex with white guys. They want NOTHING to do with their own race. Are these guys also racists? Following some of the so-called "logic" from posts I have read, the only answer is YES...but with the double-standard with is alive and well with regards to race relations in American in these days....the white guy would be called the racist and the black guy....well, maybe he is only trying to get in touch with something....some excuse will be made to make the white guy the culprit and the black guy a victim....there is such non-sense going around these days...

Using the words "take over the place"...What
should I say...?? Five years ago on a Friday or Saturday night is was about 15% black. Now it is about 80% black. I could have used some large words to achieve the same meaning...but why..when what they have done is taken over the place. That is what has happened. I strongly view it is a negative development, no question about that... As the percentage of blacks has increased the percentage of white and other non-blacks has decreased largely because of the agressive behavior of some of the blacks..and the other people are going other places.

"Sad Story".....well, I have to agree that it is a sad story. In Dallas, Texas...which is run as a police state when a great cruising place is "lost" it is a sad story. I am so happy that you agree with me..(LOL)...

I would still like to know if anyone has any suggestions as to how to deal with agressive black guys in Midtown Spa. Please dont give me lines and lines of narrative about race relations and racism because I am not attracted to blacks. I do not find any problem with this. If anyone has any reasonable ways to say "NO" to these overly
agressive black guys, please let me know.

Thanks..