Haven't tried staying at the Oriental or the Shangri La. Every time I make a trip down to Bangkok for some R&R, I either stay at the Westin or at the Sukhotai. I guess for me it's not so bad. My Thai boyfriend and I don't look like a couple at all (unless they see what we've been doing inside the bedroom, and the bathroom, and the living room ). Being an Asian myself, we look more like work-colleagues. Which is fine with me. I often stay at both hotels on official business trips and I don't want to sound off any bells.