Wannabj,
Have you looked at
http://www.gayhealth.com? Click on
Care Network on the left on their main page. Depending where you live, you might find several referrals here.
Keep in mind you are not having to deal with this alone. We're here to talk to also. Don't worry about the length of your post. That doesn't stop anyone else
Here's some unsolicited advice: now is not the time to hold back your feelings toward this other person. You have to tell them exactly how important they are in your life. Unless they know how you truly feel, they may make their decision based on incorrect assumptions to the detriment of both of you.