Hi guys,
I just discovered this forum today, and have *really*enjoyed reading all the past posts. Some great information on here, provided by a lot of really thoughtful, cool men I'd love to meat/meet
Here's what's up with me:
For a couple of years now, I have sort of resigned myself to the idea that unless I am on my couch or bed jacking off to videos with poppers in hand, I am not gonna cum. I'm a pretty goodlooking friendly bearcub with no lack of opportunities for sex, but I have really started turning most of them down because no matter how hard the guy tries...no one can get me off except myself (with the aforementioned porn and poppers at my disposal). And as much as still enjoy getting other guys off (which I am very good at), I do get really frustrated that I am unable to shoot for them.
This is the pattern....whatever partner I'm with will invariably cum first. Then, the ones who are cool and want to see my cum will try to help me get off too. Usually I ask them to suck my balls while I jack off, and they are almost always willing. But more than half the time, even this doesn't work, because my mind keeps straying to the fact that IT'S TIME TO CUM NOW....and GOING TO CUM, OR WHAT?...these types of very inhibiting thoughts.
I've thought about completely stopping all porn and poppers and even masturbation and not cumming at all until it happens at the hands. or mouth, of a sex partner. But this just isn't realistic. I love jacking off with porn/poppers!
I dunno, any of you wise, wonderful guys have any thoughts?