Hey Woof,
Thought I'd throw in my two cents as well here.
As the Buddhists say, "You're perfect just the way you are. "
That said, instead of fighting what get's you off embrace it. If you need porn, poppers and lube, go for it and set your hook ups around that.
We all have issues around sexuality and therapy is always a great venue for anyone trying to find out more about themselves, heal and even break ground on new experiences. You may suffer from some "intamacy" issues, you know, the usual suspects we all read about on line or watch on television.
I for one have a hard time getting aroused once I start to get to know someone, therefore, anonymous sex is my best bet when I want to get off. Yes of course there are issues there, but am I going to stop having anonymous sex? I think not, just as you shouldn't stop doing what you're doing.
Really, honesty works wonders and you can be totally upfront with guys you want to play with about your not cumming thing or just say you're looking to please and that gets you off. I know many guys into servicing that don't like to cum while doing it. Fine with me as I've had plenty of hot times with guys like that.
So, I guess I'd suggest going to therapy if you feel it will improve your quality of life, or just say fuck it and keep doing what you're doing.
Peace out. ;-)
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