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Was there ever a time in your life where you could jack off to completion without watching porn and using poppers to enhance the experience? This is not a trick question.
If you can't get aroused and stay aroused until you climax unless you are watching porn and using poppers, you might have developed a conditioned sexual arousal dependency later in your mid-life. You are not age 21, mentally and physically; you're age 41. If you have been using porn and poppers over a long period of time, let's say from your early 20s to the present, you might be experiencing something that naturally occurs in most men as they move into their mid-life or middle age years. You are not experiencing the elevated testosterone homone levels now that you did when in your 20s. You need to take that into account.
Next, you mentioned you are HIV+. Are you taking any prescribed medications? If so, what if any side effects might the medications have on your physical ability to maintain or sustain an erection to completion and climax? This needs to also be taken into account if you are using prescribed meds for HIV.
You should also know that even men using Viagra must still be sexually aroused in order for the Viagra to do its job. As Dr Danny, one of our contributing medical authorities, would tell you ... Viagra only works if a guy is sufficiently sexually aroused. Am I suggesting you might be a candidate for Viagra? Absolutely not. What I am saying, however, is that maybe you need to sit down with your doctor and have a heart-to-heart frank and candid talk with him about your problem. At age 41, you probably need to have this heart-to-heart talk with your doctor if for no other reason to rule out any organic systemic problem.
This is not the time in your life to be shy or reluctant to discuss your sexual health concerns with your doctor. Since you are HIV+, I'm assuming you are already under a doctor's care for managing your HIV disease. If this is the case, you need to share your concerns with your doctor.
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