Wow, such great comments from some REALLY cool guys. Love to have you all over for some in-person sex therapy
An update: I had posted another thread asking guys what they are thinking about during sex, whether or not they fantasize or if they are just focused on the guys they are having the moment with. To my surprise, most guys said they do NOT fantasize during sex, they are focused on their partner. I really thought it was the norm to kind of go off in your head somewhere during sex.
SO....I met this really cool guy last week, and we have had sex a few times. Both times there was no porn, no poppers...and both times I shot huge loads, focusing on the physical sensations and really trying to be in the moment, getting off on the man and the cock that was in mouth, my ass. Pretty cool, eh?
But I am going to take all your excellent thoughtful replies with me. Yeah, the age and the hiv status and the years of doing the same thing are probably all factors.
Thanks again for all the terrific advice. So glad I came upon this forum...pun intended
WOOF!