Now that you have gotten over the emotional hurdle, you can now begin to see things much clearer and objectively.

What this other guy did, from an ethical perspective, was wrong. He withheld vital information about himself that potentially could have fucked up your life. There is no way around this ethical issue. The very first time you and he dated obligated him to tell you he was HIV positive. If he had done that, you would have been informed about his health status that could have significantly impacted your own health and life. Remember, it was his ethical obligation to inform you.

In relationships, whether it is a single date or several, we do have an ethical obligation to inform the other person about such things as our HIV status. In some states, it is a crime for a HIV positive person to not inform a sexual partner of their HIV positive status. The issue here is informed consent. Concealing one's HIV positive status denies others of their right to be informed. If we take care of our ethical obligations first, there will be little or no need to address the legal obligations.

We don't always talk about our ethical obligations to each other, but you can be certain somebody is going to point out our legal obligations.

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