Don't be frightened away by Edmond's 'almost passing out'. That is not the norm. Edmond, if you had had an experienced partner, things might have been very different.
Also, walking around with a butt-plug in for HOURS will leave you sore to begin with. The sphincter doesn't really need to be "stretched", unless you have the inability to take a dump. Think about it.
It's all in the ability to relax. If you are up-tight and fearful (which it sounds like you are), then it's basically gonna' be a rape ... and rapes hurt. If you are anxious, eager, and well-lubed, and if you have an EXPERIENCED and caring partner, then it'll be fine. I'm primarily a bottom, but I've topped guys who've never been topped, and they I have to keep telling them to relax ... their muscles are physically tense as they anticipate the "pain". Once they are relaxed and we get started, they're like "WOW!" This is awesome!
Positions, too, are key. In my experience, the 'legs-in-the-air" position is one of the hardest, because it naturally stretches the muscles in your ass ... so it makes them tight to begin with. The same goes for squatting over your boyfriend. Try squatting with your ass open and tell me if you can do it and keep your ass relaxed. Not unless you are a ballet dancer. And if you are a ballet dancer, I'LL come to Missouri and fuck you.
Poppers help a lot, too. They relax the sphincter muscles and they help you really get "into it". Keep them fresh by keeping them in the fridge, if you can.
Now ...
Lay down on your stomach, spread cheeks, take some poppers if you do them (NO VIAGRA WITH POPPERS, DUH!), and let him finger your ass with lots of lube. Get into it. Love it. You'll be begging him (them) for more.
Dildos are not NEARLY as comfortable as cocks. So if a dildo or butt-plug hurts, don't panic. Cocks don't. Really.
Now, that being said .... taking 5 or 6 black guys (!!!) on your first time might be a little like saying that you've always wanted to learn to sail, so you want to try your hand at the helm of the Queen Mary. After all, she's a beauty! Uh, you are not ready, Grass-hopper (you won't get that if you're under 30).
Don't be greedy.
And call me if you are a ballet dancer. I'll even bring a couple of black guys.
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