You're right: you DON'T ask a guy through a gloryhole. Nor is there any specific way you can find out in ADVANCE if he's into having his balls worked over.
Just do it and see what happens.
A gloryhole is for the fun of BOTH the cocksucker and the cocksuckee. YOU, as the anonymous sucker on one end, get to do whatever the hell you WANT to do with the guy's genitals. If he doesn't like it -- he can leave.
And that, I assume, is how you can tell that some guys aren't into it -- they probably leave or at least pull out and back off and cue you in to the fact that they're bored.
Frankly... as suggested above, most guys DO like having their balls worked over -- but most do NOT want this to the exclusion of having their cock IGNORED. You haven't said if you mostly go for JUST the guy's balls or if you pay attention to his dick, too.
Look, if it were me... (and this HAS happened to me many times) -- I'd ultimately leave, too. If I'm sticking my dick in a gloryhole, I want my DICK SUCKED. Sure, the other guy can have fun and do what he wants -- in fact, a gloryhole is the ONE place where I am generally NOT in control of what the other guy does. I like this sometimes -- not being in control, not knowing what to expect. But if a dude pretty much leaves my dick alone and just keeps on sucking my balls... I get bored pretty fast -- and limp pretty fast, too. Perhaps you are also assuming lots of guys don't like this because they get limp also...
When cruising online, I am often asked by potential suck buddies if I like my balls licked or my ass eaten or whatever. Sure I do -- and I tell them so. But I ALSO tell them exactly what I told you: if they do these things to the exclusion of anything else, ignoring my dick -- I'm not the right guy for them. I always let them know that "anything is fine as long as my dick gets most of the attention."
I like my feet licked or massaged, too -- and met a foot fetishist once who promised me great, great head AND foot worship. This fucker drove all the way from freaking ORLANDO and ALL he did was pay attention to my feet. I was falling asleep. I actually stopped him and told him to get the fuck out of my house, told him he lied to me, promising he'd suck my dick and doing nothing but focusing on my feet. This was an encounter I'd looked forward to for a week -- and in fifteen minutes I knew it was a BUST because the dude lied.
Though I've had TONS of great fun messing around in West Virginia's AWESOME gloryholes, for some inexplicable reason there was one evening when EVERY SINGLE DUDE who was on the other side of several gloryholes in a certain bookstore refused to suck my dick. These guys just kept trying to "dry-jerk" me off. How fucking DULL. I can dry-jerk myself off better than anyone else! So after allowing them a few minutes of giving me a handjob and hoping they'd ultimately use their MOUTH, I would simply remove my dick and fucking LEAVE. Not worth my time -- and I have to be honest: I wanted these guys to KNOW they were wasting my time -- not to mention hogging the holes and refusing to suck dick.
Yeah, OK... there's no rule of law that states that a gloryhole MUST be used for sucking only -- but let's be real... getting fellated is what the vast majority of men who are using gloryholes from a standing position really WANT.
At the same time -- the dudes who were wanting to "just" jerk off a dick... well, they are allowed to try to get what they want and use the hole anyway they see fit. However -- they will NOT get it from ME.
That's just how it goes. We've all been in many sexual situations where it simply doesn't work out -- we want one thing, he wants something else -- or there is NO chemistry at all.
Since you cannot really find out in advance if a guy wants more attention to his balls when using a gloryhole, all you can do is to enjoy yourself and hope the dude is into what you want.
My suggestion to you, however, assuming that perhaps you ARE paying more attention to his balls than you are to his dick is to compromise on YOUR end, too. Make sure you suck the guy's cock. And when you're working over his balls, why not stroke his sopping wet dick with your hand to keep him stimulated?
If you ARE doing that and not ignoring his dick -- good for you. But if you have a strict testicle fetish and don't much care for cock, or at the very least are MORE into balls than dick -- you might be better served advertising your fetish online and finding men who are into that. Alternately, you can still keep up SOME degree of anonymous sex when using an ABS booth with a buddy instead of using the gloryhole. It's not quite the same, sure... but at least you can say just a couple words to let the guy know what you are into: "I love your balls -- fucking hot balls, man. Great balls. I want to lick your balls." I've heard this kind of thing myself many times and that's all that is needed to let me know that the guy is into balls!
Rarely, I WILL let a dude focus on my balls as his main attraction and will jerk off on his face -- but not often.
I find most guys who just sort of lick at my nuts bore me. If a dude can DO something MORE -- I enjoy that. Some serious tugging and sucking or massaging or whatever. But just a tongue flicking my balls... Dullsville.
Thought I'd share my personal perspective and opinion, but do understand: you have every right to enjoy yourself as you please. You just have to be mindful yourself that not everyone is going to be into this as much as you are. Given time, you'll run into a dude who loves it as much as you do. Meanwhile, be ready to deal with men who want something else.
I ran into a dude in New York at an ABS -- hot little fucker. I liked him, thought I'd mess around and swap blowjobs with him. He gave me every indication that he wanted to suck me off, too. But he didn't. All HE wanted was to have HIS balls licked. He shoved my face down onto his balls and blew his load in SECONDS.
Again: Dullsville.
But that's just me. Clearly, this dude would be a PERFECT match for you! So if I ran into a guy like this -- you will, too. It just might take some time.
Good luck.
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