Thanks, you've given me a lot to think about. Just asking the questions puts me in a position to look more objectively ... and I know that long-term fidelity is pretty much a pipe-dream ... and I understand that.
It's just the shock, you know?
I've (we've) always said that we'd work through whatever happened as long as there was honesty involved ... it would have been so much easier if he hadn't been 'caught'.
But I don't expect perfection. I'll treat him as I'd want to be treated, and as I always promised him that I would.
It's just hard.
I now understand the people who put in their ads that they won't fool around with anyone who is married (legally or otherwise) ... they must've been hurt along the way themselves. It kinda' changes your outlook.
Thanks for your consideration.
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