Cool post from a newbie...
To avoid any confusion, however... I do not feel I "ended up gay" even after trying out a few pieces of snatch. Perhaps this statement is being semantically misinterpreted by myself, so no need to make a big deal out of it. But for the record, I always KNEW I was gay, deep down inside -- I just wouldn't admit it for a while, thinking it would be to my benefit to at least TRY to give heterosexuality a chance. It's easy for lots of guy to repress their true feelings, and consequently many gay men who have been through that experience become jaded and disbelieve anyone who claims bisexuality. When I was a kid, my Mom always told me that I should at least try out new things before I made a decision as to whether or not I liked them. Mostly, however, this applied to things like eating broccoli or cauliflower for the first time. Mom never really suggested I go down on some dripping pussy, you know?
Yet growing up with that notion in my head, of trying things before deciding upon them, I thought it would be wise to sample women prior to writing them off. Also, as it turned out, I had to try a few things several times before I understood my own tastes as an adult. For example, I LOVE broccoli now -- but cauliflower and I have a few issues that cannot be resolved.
I had many sexual experiences with my "gal pal" of whom I speak of often to this day -- we've been friends for over twenty years. A few of those experiences were good -- but they were NEVER great. And as she become more emotionally involved with ME, I realized that I could not combine sexual stimulation with EMOTION when it came to WOMEN. I can only do that with other men.
I'm quite sure I could screw a chick if I absolutely HAD to, maybe at gunpoint or something (especially if the guy holding the gun was hot). I could "let" a broad blow me, probably... But WHY?
And therein lies the difference -- "bi" guys who screw around with other guys WANT IT to some degree. Even if they claim they cannot kiss or touch or feel emotionally involved -- they still CRAVE other men and actively seek them out. So it is NOT a matter of doing it strictly BECAUSE THEY CAN. If I had to fuck a woman, I could -- but I am NOT going to do that just because I CAN. (Admittedly, it might take a few cockrings, several Viagra tabs and a penis pump to keep me hard through that experience.)
So there's a thrill or need or desire or craving or SOMETHING that continues to drive these guys to the bookstores and to go out cruising. Gay guys, however, don't often feel the need to go find a woman to fuck. Some gay dudes are openly gay and remain married to women who KNOW they are gay -- but this is rare. It is even MORE rare for the gay guy and his REAL wife to continue to have sex. Most women wouldn't allow a guy to fuck them when they know he spends weekends cruising bookstores. And more importantly, very few women would have sex when their gay husband is doing it only out of obligation and has no physical feelings for her.
I don't sit around and fantasize about women, that's for sure. Straight porn rarely entices me, unless I can focus on a really hot guy and mute the sound so I don't have to listen to that nasty bitch screaming. Straight porn almost never focuses on the dude anyway -- the fleeting glimpses just aren't worth slogging through all that pussy and bouncing silicone...
Sexual tastes and desires DO vary, no doubt. I enjoy trying out different types of MEN -- and have found many varieties that are quite nice. But clearly the difference between gay and bi dudes is that us gay guys DO NOT often get erections thinking of women. We may want variety, but the variety we seek tends to always have a hard cock involved.