K, you have been having one month worth of an on-line friendship and though he is 'a major player', he has had the patience to wait for a whole month before meeting up live. If I am getting it right, he is interested alright. What is he interested in? An ONS, a buddy kind of bond, or an all-encompassing relationship? No one can really know that, including 'Mr. Major Player' here. Just like most guys, he is keeping all of his options open. And so should you. Not everybody is a relationship material, no matter how hard you and he may try, so there is little wisdom is setting your goals in stone and denying him and you some healthy and possibly memorable pleasure, simply because he may not fit into your present mould.
So, should you get down to business right away, so to speak? Unfortunately, there is no universal answer to your question. Some guys would go for a guy, who plays 'hard to get' and the others would just stop and drop it there. Just like you cannot decide what his ultimate goals are, he has no ways of knowing what kind of guy you are.
Take it one step at a time. Meet up the guy and decide, if you are interested and let him decide, if he is interested, to start with. Keep in mind that online friendships do not usually quite truly reflect the real state of affairs in real life.
Follow your instinct. There is no other and no better way around this. If your feeling tells you to go for it..., you are getting the picture, aren't you?
Last but not least. Be who you are. If you tend to be a sexually very active person, who loves messing around and who usually has no qualms about it, stay true to yourself. You will come across as more genuine that way. Pretending to be someone else but yourself is not only wrong, it is usually very counterproductive. Have you ever heard of a guy who says, he likes 'fakes'?
KD
