"I find that most experienced bottoms have almost voluntary control over their asshole muscles and also toughened skin around the opening, which makes it easy to penetrate them."
That voluntary control can only last for a few moments. It is very tiring on those muscles. Once the fucking gets going, the bottom will start to relax and if the top withdraws for a moment, you can actually see the hole remain dilated like pussy lips.
All this rubbing toughen the skin around the opening but this skin is much darker than a virgin's pink hole. So it's not easy to get away with the coy "I have been fuck only a few times". Any top worth his salt can tell just by looking and confirm it with penetration. All those men who had you before already left their marks, so to speak.
Still a coy white lie is modus operandi, usually forgiven though confessions later when caught out by the top makes for some fun domination games. Some guys just enjoy making you confess your dirty secrets
Abstaining from penetration sex for a month or so will usually tighten it up and even lighten up the dark ring. Still it's no fooling anybody.
"Personally, I like an easy to get in hole. Being able to plunge my dick right in with just a little bit of spit on the condom is very sexy. Only experienced bottoms can enjoy this without screaming out in pain."
Ahem...gay or straight sex, they all want it virgin tight
You're a very rare exception. Better yet if there's pain of penetration, faked it if you have to. Gay or straight, the mating instinct still imprint the domination streak in a hot blooded male- he wants you to acknowledge his male organ's penetration into your body by showing pain. No pain means a whoring slut taking too many male organs and he is not exclusive.
Gay or straight, it is still sex after all, governed by millions of years of built-in instincts that throw all political correctness aside once 2 humans decide to mate
Just enjoy it.