Back to your question ... which seemed pretty simple. But I'm a simple man.

Have you tried the LIGHT version of the Silicone-based lubes (ID Light, Eros Light, etc.)? Also, if condom-compatibility is not an issue, Elbow Grease (or, even better, Elbow Grease Light) works pretty well in the water. Not GREAT, but better than your average water-based lube, and it doesn't leave the shower slippery or dirty.

I'm awaiting a shipment of J-Lube, which is a veterinary lube popular with fisters. Supposedly it's slippery as hell ... maybe someone out there has experience that they can share? If no one else responds with their comments on J-Lube (from EXPERIENCE, please?) then I'll let you know what it's like when I get mine in the male (<-- yes, I can spell).

Cheers.

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