I have to chime in here again as well. I have to admit, I was a little offended and well, more pissed, when I read the comments about what it means to be "Gay". Of course, I do know it's all said in jest , however, it annoys me that the mainstream culture views all gay men like that and that gay men try to perpetuate that image.
I have never watched the Tony awards, suck at decorating, never say fabulous or watch any of those home improvement shows. Why? It just doesn't interest me, that's all. Does this make me any less gay? Fuck no, because I'm still sucking cock and taking dick up my ass on a regular basis. I date men, have had long term relationships with men and get aroused my men all the time. So, yeah, I'm gay and do feel like I have a gay lifestyle just because I participate in some of it, ie., sucking dick, getting fucked, cruising, watching sports games at gay bars.
See, there are a whole lot of different parts of the community, and that includes the fabulous touting men, the guys who can decorate your place like nobodys business and also the guys who are kind of slobs, don't know the first thing about decorating, but make a great fuck or partner for another guy and can be a positive asset for the community as well.
I feel excuded enough when I see the mainstream hetero culture viewing the gay community that way...not because I have anything against that part of our community, I just feel left out and think that if the "whole" community was represented, we'd make a lot more headway in our social progress because more of the mainstream culture could identify with us, not the just the part that accepts or enjoys the company of the gay men described here in the other posts.
Okay, guess tha'ts all ;-)
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