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TqMale630 · #2 2nd June 2007, 04:04 AM

Being a bottom (getting fucked) is more than just laying there taking a cock up your ass! Actively participating with the top as he fucks you will increase the pleasure for both of you.

There is some preparation for a bottom, prior to being fucked. To minimize the possibility of potentially embarrassing messes, you should purge your bowel by making sure you have a bowel movement no longer than a few hours before you have anal sex. It's a good idea to bath or shower after purging your bowel, to ensure your ass is clean.

While some guys like to use a water enema or douche to cleanse themselves. Similarly, some guys like to direct at their ass a gentle stream of lukewarm water from their portable shower head; some guys remove the head, and carefully place the hose outlet at their ass and allow the stream of water to penetrate their ass for a few seconds (after having adjusted the temperature and pressure) before releasing the water from their ass in the toilet. Many bottoms find that a good, thorough cleansing in the shower is quite adequate, without forcing water into their ass and expelling it.

It can be helpful and soothing, after cleansing, to moisturize your ass with some water-based lotion.

The size of the top's cock can be of importance for the bottom! "The bigger the better" is not always true, particularly when it comes to the girth of the top's cock. While length usually need not be of concern (even cocks that are well above average length can usually be taken up the ass without problem), it is the thickness of the cock that can make the difference between pleasure and discomfort for the bottom (and also the top). The thicker the cock, the harder it can be to stretch the sphincter muscle (the opening of your ass) enough for the cock to penetrate past it.

As a bottom, there are things you can do if you are at all apprehensive about being able to take a cock up your ass. Take some time by yourself, to explore your ass, and to get used to having something in your ass. Finger yourself (stick your finger in your ass) -- being sure to use lots of lube! You will be in total control of how quickly you stick a finger up your ass, and how far. Once you are able to accommodate one of your fingers, try inserting a couple of fingers, or your thumb. Many guys do this as a form of self pleasure!

You can also get yourself a dildo or butt plug, and experiment on yourself with these toys. Once you get used to having your fingers or a dildo in your ass, it will be easier, both physically and psychologically, to have a top slide his cock up your ass.

When it comes time to be fucked, you can start by having your partner finger you, or finger yourself. This can be an arousing part of your foreplay together. You can also use an anal sex position that puts you, as the bottom, in control. Have the top lie on his back. You can then straddle his pelvis in a kneeling position, and lower yourself on to his cock. This makes it easy for you to guide his cock into your ass at the speed you want. If you experience any discomfort, you can stop lowering yourself on to his cock for a moment, until you get used to it. This position is great for inexperienced bottoms, those with tight asses, or in situations where the top has a thicker cock than you're used to taking up your ass.

There are a couple of things you can do to help guide the top's cock into your ass; it's not going to go in easily if it's even just a bit off the mark. You can spread apart your ass cheeks with your hands, thereby providing a clearer view of the "target" for the top to aim for. You can also guide the top's cock to your ass hole with your hands.

Until you have a bit of experience as a bottom, it's a worthwhile tip for you to try to avoid clenching your ass as the top penetrates you. That actually can cause discomfort and pain. Instead, try to relax your sphincter muscle. Try pushing your ass against his cock -- just like you are taking a crap! Once the top's cock is inside you, you can clench and unclench your sphincter muscle, or your butt muscles, to stimulate his cock.

When the top is thrusting his cock in and out, you can get into the rhythm of his strokes yourself, to increase the pleasure for both of you. Don't be afraid to introduce your own movements; changing the angle of your ass, or moving a bit from side-to-side, can be very stimulating, for example.

Some guys experience a feeling like having to urinate when their ass is penetrated. You'll get used to that, and you'll come to realize that although that's what it feels like, you aren't going to actually urinate; the top's cock is just stimulating that part of your anatomy that makes you feel like you have to pee.

Some bottoms get rock hard erections when being fucked, and will cum quickly with even just a little stimulation of their cock. If you are quick to shoot when getting fucked, and you don't want to cut the whole experience short, try getting fucked on your stomach with your legs closed. This keeps your hands, and the top's hands away from your cock.

Some guys lose their erections when their ass is penetrated. If that is the case, or if you aren't someone who tends to cum too quickly, then by all means, use your hands to stimulate your cock, or encourage the top to jerk you off while he fucks you.

There are many different positions you and your partner can use for fucking. It can be stimulating to try different positions, and switch positions part way through fucking. Fucking in different locations -- inside or outside -- can also be erotic and stimulating.

Communicate with the top. Let him know how you like to be fucked. That can include the positions you like (or would like to try), whether you like to be fucked with slow or fast thrusts, and whether you want him to stroke your cock. Use your imagination and have him fuck you the way you want to be fucked!