Anal Sex Advice Needed

NorthShoreBi · #1 1st June 2007, 11:50 AM

I'm pretty new to anal sex. I've given it several times and taken it a couple (always safe w/ condom). I find I really like to make a guy cum with my ass, the pulsing and exploding a cock in my butt is very cool.

I weight the fun of it against the pain and how uncomfortable it can be at times. Of course, I took it from a guy with a relativly small cock once and that helped, he got to rail on my pretty good. But, I'd like to take bigger cocks because, let's face it, they're more fun to suck and I like the whole experince.

Does anyone have any tips, tricks, advice to get used to taking anal or ways to cut down on the uncomfortable factor?

Thanks for any help!

TqMale630 · #2 2nd June 2007, 03:04 AM

Being a bottom (getting fucked) is more than just laying there taking a cock up your ass! Actively participating with the top as he fucks you will increase the pleasure for both of you.

There is some preparation for a bottom, prior to being fucked. To minimize the possibility of potentially embarrassing messes, you should purge your bowel by making sure you have a bowel movement no longer than a few hours before you have anal sex. It's a good idea to bath or shower after purging your bowel, to ensure your ass is clean.

While some guys like to use a water enema or douche to cleanse themselves. Similarly, some guys like to direct at their ass a gentle stream of lukewarm water from their portable shower head; some guys remove the head, and carefully place the hose outlet at their ass and allow the stream of water to penetrate their ass for a few seconds (after having adjusted the temperature and pressure) before releasing the water from their ass in the toilet. Many bottoms find that a good, thorough cleansing in the shower is quite adequate, without forcing water into their ass and expelling it.

It can be helpful and soothing, after cleansing, to moisturize your ass with some water-based lotion.

The size of the top's cock can be of importance for the bottom! "The bigger the better" is not always true, particularly when it comes to the girth of the top's cock. While length usually need not be of concern (even cocks that are well above average length can usually be taken up the ass without problem), it is the thickness of the cock that can make the difference between pleasure and discomfort for the bottom (and also the top). The thicker the cock, the harder it can be to stretch the sphincter muscle (the opening of your ass) enough for the cock to penetrate past it.

As a bottom, there are things you can do if you are at all apprehensive about being able to take a cock up your ass. Take some time by yourself, to explore your ass, and to get used to having something in your ass. Finger yourself (stick your finger in your ass) -- being sure to use lots of lube! You will be in total control of how quickly you stick a finger up your ass, and how far. Once you are able to accommodate one of your fingers, try inserting a couple of fingers, or your thumb. Many guys do this as a form of self pleasure!

You can also get yourself a dildo or butt plug, and experiment on yourself with these toys. Once you get used to having your fingers or a dildo in your ass, it will be easier, both physically and psychologically, to have a top slide his cock up your ass.

When it comes time to be fucked, you can start by having your partner finger you, or finger yourself. This can be an arousing part of your foreplay together. You can also use an anal sex position that puts you, as the bottom, in control. Have the top lie on his back. You can then straddle his pelvis in a kneeling position, and lower yourself on to his cock. This makes it easy for you to guide his cock into your ass at the speed you want. If you experience any discomfort, you can stop lowering yourself on to his cock for a moment, until you get used to it. This position is great for inexperienced bottoms, those with tight asses, or in situations where the top has a thicker cock than you're used to taking up your ass.

There are a couple of things you can do to help guide the top's cock into your ass; it's not going to go in easily if it's even just a bit off the mark. You can spread apart your ass cheeks with your hands, thereby providing a clearer view of the "target" for the top to aim for. You can also guide the top's cock to your ass hole with your hands.

Until you have a bit of experience as a bottom, it's a worthwhile tip for you to try to avoid clenching your ass as the top penetrates you. That actually can cause discomfort and pain. Instead, try to relax your sphincter muscle. Try pushing your ass against his cock -- just like you are taking a crap! Once the top's cock is inside you, you can clench and unclench your sphincter muscle, or your butt muscles, to stimulate his cock.

When the top is thrusting his cock in and out, you can get into the rhythm of his strokes yourself, to increase the pleasure for both of you. Don't be afraid to introduce your own movements; changing the angle of your ass, or moving a bit from side-to-side, can be very stimulating, for example.

Some guys experience a feeling like having to urinate when their ass is penetrated. You'll get used to that, and you'll come to realize that although that's what it feels like, you aren't going to actually urinate; the top's cock is just stimulating that part of your anatomy that makes you feel like you have to pee.

Some bottoms get rock hard erections when being fucked, and will cum quickly with even just a little stimulation of their cock. If you are quick to shoot when getting fucked, and you don't want to cut the whole experience short, try getting fucked on your stomach with your legs closed. This keeps your hands, and the top's hands away from your cock.

Some guys lose their erections when their ass is penetrated. If that is the case, or if you aren't someone who tends to cum too quickly, then by all means, use your hands to stimulate your cock, or encourage the top to jerk you off while he fucks you.

There are many different positions you and your partner can use for fucking. It can be stimulating to try different positions, and switch positions part way through fucking. Fucking in different locations -- inside or outside -- can also be erotic and stimulating.

Communicate with the top. Let him know how you like to be fucked. That can include the positions you like (or would like to try), whether you like to be fucked with slow or fast thrusts, and whether you want him to stroke your cock. Use your imagination and have him fuck you the way you want to be fucked!

discreetchiguy · #3 2nd June 2007, 07:37 PM

Very nice! Virgin ass here, but I'd be lying if I said I wasn't interested in trying!

JQSMITH · #4 13th June 2007, 11:02 AM

Grest response.

Heres me two cents...

The main thing is lots of lube. Especialy when youre first trying it. I like using a silicone-based lube. They can cost more but i think its worth it. The water-based ones can dry out when the water starts evaporating not so with silicone they stay slick for much longer. Stay away from vasline to lube up since it degrads condoms.

I also like enemas. Nice and clean and I havent found any irration but that can vary.

Ive heard tails of people some wine or vodka in the enema to help numb the ass but have never tried it and it may just be an urban legend. Has anyone out there heard of this?? Or tried it??

Dan · #5 18th June 2007, 09:54 PM

I have never tried an alcohol enema, but have heard of them too.
The reason behind it, is that the large intesitne's major role is in the absorbtion of water. If I remember right absorbtion is actually faster in the large intestine than the stomach. So an alcohol enema is not to numb the ass, but actually a way to get drunk. I would be a little hesitent to try this because literally "less is more". IE alcohol poisining/death. If tried, start slowly to find out how the increasing amounts of alcohol effects you.

Dan-RN

friendlyasiantop · #6 19th June 2007, 01:59 PM

I am really attracted to the idea of enemas-giving them to the bottom beforehand (that intimacy is so sexy to me) as well as to myself (have been thinking about experimenting more with bottoming this summer). But can you guys explain the nitty-gritty to this novice? What kind of equipments do you really need for an enema, and where do you get them (would love it if specific brands were discussed/recommended). The only type I know of came from Walgreens in a kind of ****** bottle (green/white box). But I was told that they shouldn't be used that often-at least not everyday. Is a water-only enema sufficient? I have had bottom that have emptied their entire bowels on my bed (I'm not squeamish-but REALLY!) and well as those who do not show the slightest trace of shit even after hours and hours of fucking. How does one get it THAT clean?

NorthShoreBi · #7 5th July 2007, 11:10 AM

Thanks for the respones!

The silicon lube really is much better than KY, glad for that advice. It does seem to boil down to practice, I just don't have a regular fuck bud to practice with that often.

I heard of putting some booze in the enema but kind of figured that it was just getting you a little drunk (and thus easier to fuck) more than it dulled the nevres. I'd love to hear from someone who's tried it. I'm sure you'd have to be real careful with that.

asiantop - don't know about specifc brands, they all seem pretty much the same. The trick to clean ass is lots of fiber. Got to get a good, regular BM. If so their ass should be pretty clean allready. Add the enema to that and you get the super-clean porn ass.

buttpiratesc · #8 21st February 2022, 03:58 AM

The most important thing to start off with is to CLEAN YOURSELF OUT! Yes, do two or three enemas until the water comes out clear. Stuff in your rectum and colon will rub and scrape your insides, making it uncomfortable. Also, there is always the worry about "leakage," which makes you less relaxed. I always clean out before anything goes in my ass. Once clean, my inside is as smooth and soft as a pussy.

The next thing I like to do for bareback is I use Vaseline as my lube of choice. Put it on your finger and really finger fuck your ass and lube it up GOOD. You can never have too much grease in your ass. Next, lube your guy (or toy) up good too. Don't be concerned about the excess lube. Far better to have excess lube than not enough.

Next, penetration. There IS a trick to getting it in until you are really used to it. I push the tip of the toy or cock against my hole, release, push, release. Keep doing this. It takes time to get it in the first time, but it works. Once the hole has dilated, the cock will slide in. Make sure you don't stop there. Keep the cock MOVING. Yes, it needs to be moving in and out so your ass doesn't clamp down on it. Your hole will learn that it is ok to be relaxed. Keep it moving. Once you get to where you can fuck normally, you have it made.

The more often you take a cock or toy in your ass, the sooner your hole will learn to relax instantly. My hole opens wide the moment I even start thinking about anal sex. Follow these steps every time, and you will be able to fuck like the best of us!