A lot has been said about chemistry between the bar boys and customers. This is the truth. I have lived here in Bangkok for 6 years now. At present I am not a frequent visitor to these establishments.....about every other month these days, but when I first moved here and even when I used to visit on vacation I was a frequent bar hopper.
Once in a great while, if a bar boy took a liking to you, he would even offer to go with you for free, either after work or just for paying the bar fee. I know there will be many naysayers here about this, but it had happened to me about 10 times over the last 9 years or so. These boys most often were completely gay (i.e. not gay for pay) and either were attracted to me, or just wanted to make a friend. I am still friends with a few of them to this day. Two of them in particular would often call me after work (separately) if they had no customer, just to ask to stay at my house and sleep.
As is always the case, each and every situation and relationship is different.
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