A 7" thick cock is quite large for a first time (even for many experienced guys it would be pretty formidable). Your enjoyment of this experience is mostly going to depend on 1) how comfortable you feel with the guy 2) how much you're looking forward to being fucked in general 3) his skill, experience and how he feels about you (eg, is he genuinely interested in your pleasure) and 4) how much you can relax the muscles in your ass.

Do you have any experience at all with anal pleasure? You might see how you like the feeling of a small dildo, vibrator or even a small tube-like vegetable (little zucchini, cuke, etc). When you are really enjoying small, then try medium, then try larger. But be aware that self-stimulation is quite different from someone else controlling the in and out.

Absolutely key, lots of lube; remember water-based or silicone (my preference) with a condom.

Cleaning out requires emptying your lower bowel. An enema or an item available at some abs called an anal douche or anal spike can be very handy. Give yourself plenty of time beforehand for this, and use some lube on the tube, too.

Plenty of foreplay with tongue and/or finger(s)--lubed well and gloved if you prefer, tongue. And lead up to it with all the kinds of things that turn you on the most, as it's going to make you feel more receptive. Being penetrated is quite a unique feeling--it's amazing if you're inclined, but you need to respect what your body (in this case, your ass) can accomodate.

And, remember, sex is for mutual pleasure; communicate clearly, you're in charge of your body. Just quit if it hurts. You can always try it again later, after more experience with smaller dicks or other objects. I offer this advice as somebody who totally enjoys getting fucked (as well as fucking) and has been mounted by some really BIG guys. But take your time, relax and remember, "no more for now" is OK. Have fun, Al

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