OK guys, I'm going to have anal sex for the first time next week. I need some advice. What do I need to do to properly prepare... I don't want to be messy (if you know what I mean). Also, I'm very afraid that it will hurt so bad I won't be able to let him fuck me. He has a very thick 7" cock. Any advice would be appreciated.

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A 7" thick cock is quite large for a first time (even for many experienced guys it would be pretty formidable). Your enjoyment of this experience is mostly going to depend on 1) how comfortable you feel with the guy 2) how much you're looking forward to being fucked in general 3) his skill, experience and how he feels about you (eg, is he genuinely interested in your pleasure) and 4) how much you can relax the muscles in your ass.

Do you have any experience at all with anal pleasure? You might see how you like the feeling of a small dildo, vibrator or even a small tube-like vegetable (little zucchini, cuke, etc). When you are really enjoying small, then try medium, then try larger. But be aware that self-stimulation is quite different from someone else controlling the in and out.

Absolutely key, lots of lube; remember water-based or silicone (my preference) with a condom.

Cleaning out requires emptying your lower bowel. An enema or an item available at some abs called an anal douche or anal spike can be very handy. Give yourself plenty of time beforehand for this, and use some lube on the tube, too.

Plenty of foreplay with tongue and/or finger(s)--lubed well and gloved if you prefer, tongue. And lead up to it with all the kinds of things that turn you on the most, as it's going to make you feel more receptive. Being penetrated is quite a unique feeling--it's amazing if you're inclined, but you need to respect what your body (in this case, your ass) can accomodate.

And, remember, sex is for mutual pleasure; communicate clearly, you're in charge of your body. Just quit if it hurts. You can always try it again later, after more experience with smaller dicks or other objects. I offer this advice as somebody who totally enjoys getting fucked (as well as fucking) and has been mounted by some really BIG guys. But take your time, relax and remember, "no more for now" is OK. Have fun, Al

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Buy a Fleet enema and put plain water in it to get yourself all nice and clean. Don't let him use spit (it hurts too bad) use KY or some other kind of lotion.

I like to be on my back so I can kind of control how fast he wants his cock in me. Slow and relaxed is the way to go. I also like to have my tits sucked and played with since that's what really gets me HOT.

My old boy friend was the best. He has 8 nice thick inches but was always very slow and gentle until he got me opened up. After that he would fuck me silly. He can fuck like a demon for 30-45 minutes. Then of course the best part is having him cum deep inside you. I could always feel his cum ****** inside me (about the best feeling you can get) and then see the smile on his face! HOT HOT HOT He could make me cum twice in a row. I could kick myself for not moving with him.

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Good advice here.

Be prepared for a degree of pain or discomfort, even if you do all the prep work as described. Some people go thru this for a very long time and the others have no problem with it ever. Obviously, most guys tend to fall somewhere in-between...

A friend of mine always says that he takes a degree of pain or discomfort that sometimes comes with bottoming as a price he is very willing paying for the joys he receives.

Call it a 'positive mental attitude', if you will?

KD

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Well how did it go SC? Did you enjoy it?

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Yes, it was hot. It did hurt a lot at first, but it got better. I was VERY nervous, but I think I will enjoy even more next time.

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The nervousness is normal - and the pain will get better when you are not as scared.

I have never done anal that much that there was no pain but the first time is the scariest.

I will never forget looking at my buddies cock and thinking "no way in hell that will fit!" but I never thought that much about size at first and the guy that was my first was the biggest I ever have had - but also back then I did not have such a thing as CFS to get tips and share experiences!

Glad you had fun.

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Agree that being pounded is an amazing experience -- if you prepare for it. But after every session I never fail to pass motion. Is this normal?

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I did a google search of this term and it wasn't too clear.

If you're having any experience besides a tweak of soreness, you might want to back off on the degree of "pounding"--either how long you're getting fucked or how ferociously (or both). Remember to have fun. Al

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Oh sorry. It must be an expression of my part of the world. "Pass motion" means to go to the toilet and shit. It always happens after being pounded, though I can control it for up to 15 minutes after a session. A bit of sore for the rest of the day for sure, a kind of glorious "afterglow" sensation that one hopes would last. But unfortunately, the ass "heals" the next day.

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Yea the first time was probably the scariest but you get over that quickly. It did hurt at first but soon afterwards you wont even feel the pain because the pleasure so outweighs anything else. Once you get into being a serious bottom you only think of the sensation of being fucked and feeling him explode inside you. And sure do agree with the afterglow reward. I feel so satisfied and at peace after my b/f has drained his seed in me. You will be walking with a smile afterwards. So dont be afraid and hold back

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