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Originally Posted by KewlDewd66
We talked amongst each other, because the guy with whom you had sex was bound by his promise of absolute discretion. He, too, shared his experiences with you, for the same reason. The actual fact that you shared common sexual experience made you a trustworthy person. You became one of his gang, and he became one of yours. In that sense, none of us knew the word "closet", and none of us really experienced any of the side effects of living in total secrecy.
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As you said - that must have been a cultural difference. We had sex - but really never talked about it until we were ready for the next time.
And we never mentioned names - I remember years later talking with a long time sex buddy and he mentioned that he had found a mutual friend on Facebook and that he was married with kids. I was surprised and said "Mike has a wife? I was sure he was going to end up gay" and that led to my buddy finding out Mike and I had fooled around and he was pissed I never told him so he could have as well!
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Originally Posted by KewlDewd66
Everyone used to agree in those days that being gay was not really a good thing for anyone. But hardly anyone expected the guys not to have sex until they got married. A great degree of tolerance came out of this general attitude.
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Exactly - girls did not put out as often or as easily as guys wanted - and I know a lot of guys who fooled around for a time - at least until a bit older when they got girlfriends that would take care of their needs.
There were also a number of guys that were not into gay sex - but that did not mean you might not jack off together if someone had porn or you were in a situation where you had limited privacy. After all we all saw each other showering in gym class so seeing his cock was not a big deal....