John and I have been exchanging views on our college days sexperience. We touched down on the subject of some dudes 'growing up out of it', getting GFs and living str8 lives for better or worse.
I saw a similar thing happening within the gay context in those days, too.
Though web based porn did not exist in our time and day, all the guys I met were street wise. They may or may have not had sex at the time I met them but virtually everyone knew the mechanics of it. No doubt, a stash of porn was not that difficult to get by, and the VHS cassettes provided easy and relatively cheap way of disseminating porn among the friends.
Guys were perpetually horny, and everybody was looking for sex. You went to college to have some life after all the limitations of the HS.
Yet, relatively few guys knew if they wanted to top or bottom or go versatile; give BJ or receive them. The attitude was to get together and have sex, or start viewing yourself as someone who was either good for nothing or someone who was missing on the big chunk of fun out there. I'd venture to say that the virginity card was at a very low value in those days.
The basic default was that a 'bigger' dude topped a 'smaller' dude. Though, there were a few notable exceptions among the guys.
Dudes who were more clueless than the the others, less connected and integrated, new in town/school mostly ended up being bottoms unless the size of their endowment and/or the preference of the dude(s) they hooked up dictated otherwise.
I started topping because the very first guy I had hooked up with was smaller than me, and he wanted me to top him. Sure, I never looked back, and have stayed that way throughout life.
Yet, few bottom dudes started looking around, and were keen on exploring other possibilities.
Every fall, a new crop of freshmen would hit the town. The frogs were new, inexperienced, had no friends, were horny and willing to try anything. This is how some of the known bottom dudes got to top, too.
Some liked it. Some did not. A few of the dudes who started enjoying the topping part soon 'grew up on being bottoms', and started spending more time with the newbies who they were topping.
A dude whom I was topping with quite some regularity for two years told me one evening that he started topping, too. And wow, this was so much fun, and he loved it. He would still bottom for me, for the sake of good ole times, but made it abundantly clear that he changed his preference.
Since we really liked each other and connected on more levels than just sex, we stayed in touch, and developed a hang for the threesomes with the two of us usually spitroasting another dude. After a few such encounters, my FB showed renewed interest in bottoming for me again
. He also made it clear that he was doing it under the condition of total discretion, too. The other guys were not supposed to know, since he was not into bottoming for anyone else.
I discovered a passion for topping dudes who just topped other dudes, and our friendship continued for a while.
KD