Not as much in college because by then you were a bit older and had more life experience - but back in Jr High and High School there were a lot of guys that experimented and then moved on.

Girls were brought up to value their virginity - it was something special to be saved and given out only to that magical first love.

Guys were walking hard ons - we wanted to loose our virginity as fast as possible - or at least get our rocks off.

Games like strip poker or truth or dare always led to being naked and usually getting off together - but it was never considered gay sex.

I find it so funny all the talk about them accepting gay Boy Scouts. When I went to scout camp there was more masturbation and fooling around there than in a bath house! But yet we all felt it was just getting off - not gay sex.

Most of it was viewed almost like they do in the Navy, prisons, etc. - it was opportunity sex - they were not having sex with a guy because they wanted sex with a guy - it was just what was available at a time and age when the girls were not wanting to put out.

Most of it was masturbation or blow jobs - this was for practical reasons - those could be done quickly and anywhere - less chance of getting caught. But also it was because that was considered "just getting off" if you fucked or kissed - that implied real sex - and real GAY sex - and the kissing implied an emotional connection. And in both cases at those ages we were trying to convince ourselves that we were not gay - we were only doing this because it was our only option. With some of guys it clearly was more - but with the stigma of being "a homo" no one wanted to go there.

Sometimes it was a one time thing - others it might go on for months and months - but with many of these guys eventually either the girlfriend started to put out or they began to feel guilty about doing something "wrong" and they stopped.

If it was a friend where sex was the only real thing you have in common - the friendship faded. If you were friends where sex was just part of what you did sometimes the friendship continued and you just did not talk about the fact you used to have sex. We both knew it - sometimes you looked at each other and you both knew what you were thinking - but you put it in the past and moved on in order to remain friends.

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