Being str8 has been the only societally accepted public default in all Eastern Med cultures. Now, being str8 usually also means that you are having sex with other males, too. Because your other, equally str8 friends do, too.
If you are getting your cocked sucked, or if you are fucking another guy, well, the matter at hand is obvious. You are topping, hence you are 'all male'. Who would doubt that? If you end up on the receiving end, there has to be an additional explanation to maintain your 'all male', str8 status. Like, you owed something to the guy who was topping you, and you are paying back. Or you ran out of cash, so this other guy paid you to get some fun. Naturally, you are 'all male and str8' but like all of your buddies, you make exceptions for the 'deserving' guys.
The custom of a bottom dude being given something in exchange for, ehm, his services soon became a pretty universal face saving strategy for a dude who agreed to bottom.
I thought that this MO was kinda silly, but it sure worked. You bought dude a dinner, and since he was short of cash to pay for his part, you fucked the dude. If you ran out of dough, and your buddy bought you a meal, he got to fuck you. A real man always pays his debts, or so the narrative goes.
The foreigners brought a fresh wind into this play, since most of them were not clued in on the local customs. Hence, they were even willing to pay or give away something, and even bttm for you. This made you a double winner, since you got something to trade off for your next sexual encounter.
To quite a few guys, this was only a facade. A dude who enjoyed bottoming got to bottom anyway, because he let one thing lead to another, but it all started with the proper intention of him topping in exchange for something material. So, the pretext was preserved and the dudes with most beads got to play according to their likes.
No one I ever knew questioned the wisdom of this MO. Everybody seemed to see it as perfectly natural.
KD
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