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Originally Posted by KewlDewd66
Being str8 has been the only societally accepted public default in all Eastern Med cultures. Now, being str8 usually also means that you are having sex with other males, too. Because your other, equally str8 friends do, too.
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Here in the US in my younger days all of us that were fooling around were "straight" we either just "needed to get off" or were "helping a buddy out".
Back then we assumed all gay people acted and sounded like Liberace - who despite claiming to be straight everyone knew...
The rest just acted like "regular guys" until we were alone...
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The custom of a bottom dude being given something in exchange for, ehm, his services soon became a pretty universal face saving strategy for a dude who agreed to bottom.
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Here, at least in my experience, it was not so much the giving of gifts as the helping a friend out.
Oral was and is the primary activity - with the guys where it went to anal it usually started with trading off - "you fucked me last time so today I get to fuck you". There were a couple of buddies where they had done it but I knew they did not like bottoming so sometimes I would bottom for them with no reciprocation needed. The funny part is they would have to ask - like that made it less gay for me than if I offered.
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To quite a few guys, this was only a facade. A dude who enjoyed bottoming got to bottom anyway, because he let one thing lead to another, but it all started with the proper intention of him topping in exchange for something material. So, the pretext was preserved and the dudes with most beads got to play according to their likes.
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It was mind games we all played. In our heads we knew it was gay sex - we knew we enjoyed it - but somehow if we were "helping a buddy out" it was not gay it was just getting off.
With the publicity about AIDS anal sex became more and more uncommon. That was no longer just getting off - that was serious.
Now I think that anal has grown in popularity again. Condoms make it safer and medicine means less people are dying from it and it is such a major part of gay porn (I remember old gay porn where they never fucked - the whole video would be oral) - where as the generation growing up early in the days of AIDS were scared off it I think now it is considered "required".