The issue many guys facing here is that of the lack of knowledge, lack of experience, and last but not least, lack of self-confidence. If you lack any of these, or worse, all of them, the chances are that you would be looking for a safe template to frame your behavior, expectations, and help you distinguish right from wrong. So, guys are asking all those 'am I supposed to do this? Is he supposed to cum after 30 min. of action. How long is too long, and how short is too short, etc. How am I supposed to please my man? Should I bleach my anus?

Much of this cultural framework comes straight from the heteronormative world. Who is supposed to pay the dinner bill? When is it OK to have sex and not appear to be a slut?

The list rolls on and on...

M2M sex is an essentially different experience altogether. A dude agrees to suck dick or get fucked. There is no anatomy to dictate his decision. A dude who is now kneeling in front of you polishing your knob may have just fucked some ass, and shot his load? If you keep this in mind, you'll easily understand that you want to read the desires of your mate, and respond to them as much as you can without forgetting your own pleasure. Sure, every good player wants to bring his buddy to orgasm. But sex can be awesome even if you do not get there in the porn-prescribed way.

I know a few good suckers who enjoy their trade. That does not mean that either they or their tops shoot payloads all the time. A few men go around sucking cocks, then, change the roles, and have other dudes suck them, only to shoot their loads while fucking or being fucked later on. The fact that maybe neither you nor your buddy shoot the load while messing around with each other does not invalidate the sexual experience per se. You go out to have fun. Sure, you want to get your rocks off, too. But that alone is not the only fun part. It is more about getting there.

KD

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